Thread by @usnehal

Sooooo....

...how much does @BreneBrown center on Black women, BIPOC, disabled, LGBTQ?

not opposed to all boundaries per se

BUT am a bit skeptical 🤨 🧐 🤔

in context of #DEI & structural inequity & racism

This can serve as a convenient “opt out” as a part time “ally”

https://twitter.com/MannZiva/status/1016853726680829952

This is a reality for many of us WOC entering spaces defined by white feminists

Am not Black. No one tries to touch my hair. I “pass” in ways that reduces how much I navigate vs get to “be”

When will boundaries of WOC be respected?

(Keep hands to self)

podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bla…

Is it your boundaries that cause you to quietly, when no one can see or hear, act like this?

..to ✅ “I am a good person” for your own ego

while leaving black woman or BIPOC dealing with all the consequences

plus maybe 😒🤢😡😖😞triggered by flimsy, token support yet again

https://twitter.com/dromolara/status/1229050343478132737

Some of us cannot reasonably go blonde to align with patriarchy & sexism to mitigate “scary” WOC female power with invoking “young” and “daughter” feelings from decision makers and power brokers. Tho Asian & South Asian can be seen as “young” or “docile”

slate.com/human-interest…

Black women in particular have centuries of negative stereotyping that extends into today’s media

Defined as NOT delicate, fragile, vulnerable, valued, cherished, trusted, or invoking empathy

Being defined by others is NOT about own boundaries at all

admit I had to have this spelled out for me about perpetuation of racist feminism evident in Wonder Woman movie

As much as I try to be educated and an ally, I am still unlearning the toxic forms of feminism, internalized racism, to be intersectional

harpersbazaar.com/culture/film-t…

This 🧵 is critical to read

This tweet is one that really resonated with my mom (she reads everything I post on LinkedIn and we often discuss - like this that I posted there to cross pollinate)

Over the years we’ve been making progress together in being anti-racist (Mom & me)

https://twitter.com/tamorahlewismd/status/1343329097150312450

A short 🧵 on empathy and it’s failures. Please read @paulbloomatyale for details on dangers of #empathy and when it even makes us immoral. Empathy is the danger of the single story, is centered on own feelings, limited by own capacity or “boundaries”, and lacks standards/ethics.

https://twitter.com/usnehal/status/1351522016126509059

Empathy is often an exercise in hubris too

How much has sorrow *really* carved you for you to have the capacity to be filled by or feel others’ sorrow?

You are not the measure of all things. You do not get to define or label others

Your boundaries = admitting that lack

Did you feel offended or shame at word “lack”? Then you know what to work on. Cuz why WOULD you have everything all by yourself?

As @NatsforDocs points out, a phrase I love too, “it takes a village.” Boundaries protect your own energy, time, emotion

So collaborate to cover gaps

Aspects of @BreneBrown’s advice have merit but little applies to me or to getting results

If people want results, emulate the women delivering results like @staceyabrams @KamalaHarris - black (& brown women)
#BlackGirlMagic #BlackExcellence #blackqueen

brookings.edu/essay/to-prote…

We have to center black ppl, follow lead of #blackexcellence authentically (not token)

All else is stagnation & status quo

Dismantle structures
Remove walls/boundaries
Tolerate BIPOC expanding

Your personal boundaries you maintain via own behavior? 👍🏾

nytimes.com/2020/06/19/sty…