Some outcomes are for best. I considered 2 jobs in CT in recent years. (As a kid, lived in Cheshire & Branford)
Got one offer. Other, hiring manager wanted to hire me but person to sign off heard I was “activist” so passed on my candidacy. Maybe cuz:
juberoad.com/cheshire-and-t…
Got one offer. Other, hiring manager wanted to hire me but person to sign off heard I was “activist” so passed on my candidacy. Maybe cuz:
juberoad.com/cheshire-and-t…
We had a lovely house in Cheshire w/ a big yard & fireplace, right near my school
the realtor told us that it had been suddenly put on the market because a black family had moved in next-door
I bet when we also moved there it was seen as a negative?
I made friends quickly
the realtor told us that it had been suddenly put on the market because a black family had moved in next-door
I bet when we also moved there it was seen as a negative?
I made friends quickly
My sis, in high school, had it rough. Really rough. Girl groups make up bizarro rules to police belonging.
My sister actually saved me from stuff I did not even know she had saved me from - like the girly girl dress in the last tweet? Mom’s choice.
My sister actually saved me from stuff I did not even know she had saved me from - like the girly girl dress in the last tweet? Mom’s choice.
I also have a puppy-like optimism where I just assume everybody likes me & everything I say unless it hits me in the face. I have next to no social anxiety & almost dangerous lack of paranoia. So I bet more happened around me than I noticed or realized.
I had NO idea about this. Then again, why would I? We lived in CT only two years. Apparently CT prefers to hide their history & the only conversation on race, per this article, has to go thru white gatekeepers for their comfort
Stuff happened in those 2 years. This fits:
Stuff happened in those 2 years. This fits:
New England acts holier than thou on many things. Cheshire, CT used to have slaves? Woah.
connecticuthistory.org/early-anti-sla…
connecticuthistory.org/early-anti-sla…
We’d moved 4x in one year
Oil prices fell: returned to U.S
Sis got into med school: moved to East Coast
Rental then bought house.
Always had housing, food, clean clothes, stellar grades. Cheshire school counselor wanted my parents “assessed” for the 4 moves
No valid criterion
Oil prices fell: returned to U.S
Sis got into med school: moved to East Coast
Rental then bought house.
Always had housing, food, clean clothes, stellar grades. Cheshire school counselor wanted my parents “assessed” for the 4 moves
No valid criterion
My teacher shared that, with the laugh, when she placed me in Gifted & Talented as a “can you believe...” (how much the counselor had misjudged)
No laughing matter they almost criminalized my parents
what if my mother had been black & not South Asian, speaking Queens English?
No laughing matter they almost criminalized my parents
what if my mother had been black & not South Asian, speaking Queens English?
Apparently my getting into Gifted & Talented caused resentment. Recall I was exuberantly putting glue on my artwork in regular class. A boy ridiculed me: why was I in Gifted & Talented if so messy? It felt like something he had heard at home. I became VERY neat with glue after.
Looking back much white supremacy/racism “lite” in Cheshire, CT - ppl not wanting black neighbors, assuming negative things with zero basis of a Muslim ethnic family, white parents resenting my being in Gifted & Talented (spot/space I took in school). Now: patch.com/connecticut/ch…
Feels like a repeating loop, tho, in healthcare, career. Some puerile boy-men find petty things to bully & ridicule, whether women own age or accomplished mid-career ones. Mean girls. Cliques. Implicit bias or overt racism. Do ppl ever grow up?
journalofethics.ama-assn.org/article/bully-…
journalofethics.ama-assn.org/article/bully-…
“Student mistreatment ...stem from the teacher-learner power differential inherent in the hierarchy of medical education, which leads to a ‘cycle of abuse’ in which medical students who are mistreated go on to become doctors who mistreat other medical students”
Maybe it’s because I’m in pediatrics with more women or smiling, happy, well adjusted (short) men who wear Elmo ties... but I was really blindsided by how much resentment there is towards successful women, WOC, including in medicine & spaces we occupy madamenoire.com/1129461/signs-…
I debate a lot w/ @DrvanTilburg in this topic, not cuz we actually disagree much. Trying to challenge my own thinking to crack this nut. I keep experimenting with & tweaking my leadership style. How to acknowledge women embattled yet be hold accountable?
cosmopolitan.com/career/advice/…
cosmopolitan.com/career/advice/…
ALL of this
it feels like so much of my energy
goes towards managing reactions, emotions people have about me or towards me - non-factual emotionally driven assumptions, biases
Add my being a minority, Muslim - what are their feelings about @AOC for instance?
Vs actual work
it feels like so much of my energy
goes towards managing reactions, emotions people have about me or towards me - non-factual emotionally driven assumptions, biases
Add my being a minority, Muslim - what are their feelings about @AOC for instance?
Vs actual work
When men say they are afraid to mentor women, what they are saying is all this emotional labor that has been borne by women should continue to be one sided.
Yes, all this considering and assessing is exhausting. Share the load.
nytimes.com/2019/01/29/us/…
Yes, all this considering and assessing is exhausting. Share the load.
nytimes.com/2019/01/29/us/…
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