The #narcissist cannot exist without their #narcissisticagents (flying monkeys), who do their work for them, participating in #narcissisticabuse by proxy. There is alot of information out there on narcissists, but little on their ‘agents’. What type of person becomes an agent?
People who resonate with a #narcissists victimhood or grievance, are highly Suggestible, easily manipulated, socially naive, lack #boundaries have blind trust in the narcissist, need a leader or to be led, are easily deceived and used. All narcissists use their audience
& people as a means of #control Their agents are not ‘human’ to them. They are viewed an ‘objects’ for their own agenda. They gossip, deceive & lie to their Agents. They may bring them on board for their ‘cause’. If an agent accepts, they are agreeing to underlying rules #Control
Meaning & Unwritten Requirements of the Narc. These are not stated directly to the agent. They are implied. There are covert expectations for being placed in the role that the narcissist places you in. You don’t question the Narc. Ever. #manipulation #rage #abused #manipulations
You are required to defend them & do their dirty work for them. The alignment of the Narc & agents in their grievances is toxic & has people believing the narcissists narrative, whereby they engage in smearing, gossip, mobbing, doxxing, harassment, #abuse and/or stalking or worse
They accuse others of what they are or what they are doing #projection
Narcs ‘use’ people for their own agenda. They rarely thank you or express gratitude for the agents. Their image is paramount. The agent is often placed in the position of being an ‘ally’, an ‘advocate’
Placed in special positions whereby if they disagree with
Their leader, they will be punished #toxic
The agent will be severely punished for disagreeing. The narcissist will send in other agents to talk to you about your ‘problematic’ opinions & remind you of what is required
By you. You must show absolute allegiance to the narc as their agent. The agents via manipulation justify their behaviours in their minds of harming #abused
others because whatever happened to them in their past &
To the Narc must never happen again. They want to please their
Leader. They vent their #rage on others using extreme language and words like ‘dangerous’ ‘toxic’ ‘violent’. They are vitriolic & feel justified in hurting others for this cause. #vile Narcs & agents are #obsessive & often use an agenda to justify their inappropriate behaviors
than externalise their rage and hatred
Onto others. For in doing that, they only continue the Intergenerational cycles of #trauma and #abuse throughout the families, people and harm everyone in their wake, employment, families, relationships, communities, politics & groups
Agents feel they are doing the right thing, as they are manipulated and deceived by the narcissist, who vacillates between superiority and victimhood. The narcissist will call the agents at all hours of the night, violate boundaries &/or rage at them, get other agents to contact
Them and continue the Narcs narrative. The Narc is unable to manage conflict, and must have agents to do their work for them, because they are unable to cooperatively resolve issues with others directly themselves, without devolving into #rage episodes. The agents that ‘behave’
And do the Narcs dirty work are left alone. The agents must abide by the rules even when the goalposts change. They rarely know what is happening to them as they don’t understand #manipulation and they view the Narc as their ‘God’, saviour, rescuer or leader #cults #toxicity
The agents feel superior in their morality virtue signalling actions & support, but then can experience distress when they realise or ‘see’ the narcissist behave dysregulated and/or irrational. The agent is now in
A position where they are either unable to disentangle themself
From the Narc or the group. They don’t want to cause drama, are in fear of the leader, rely heavily on social conformity and what others think of them. They are stuck in a very uncomfortable place. If they leave they will be
Demonised, their #reputation slandered or punished
Loss of social approval, so most stay as they are under control of the narcissist. Some are able to disentangle themselves from the narcissist, but at a great cost. Agents need support, resources and #therapy to leave the #Narcissist #cults #toxicrelationship #psychology

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