Nice Story Dude.....
An investigation into the psychological disorder of a Time Waster.
( Dr Charlotte is IN)
That’s just part and parcel of sales
But a TW in sex work is something quite different
They are not a tyre kicker.
They are a species all to their own.
Please don’t pipe up with all your examples of Time Wasting in other industries. That doesn’t help. It dilutes the message. Whether you realise it or not by comparing Time Wasting in sex work it to other industries you are “normalising” it.
So STOP. Start listening. Don’t make excuses for this. I’m about to describe inexcusable behaviour. Behaviour that impacts sex workers seriously.
Because people are capable of learning and society is capable of growing. Stop making allowances for inexcusable behaviour and demand that people do better
That means there are hundreds, possibly thousands of TW calls a year for each sex worker. I’d say personally I receive upwards of 500 false enquiries a year
When he was young his job was to ride around with a driver all day unloading heavy white goods.
It seemed this driver was almost pathological in his need to make constant appointments with sex workers he was never going to keep.
Eventually my client got a new job and never saw the driver again.
Like any actor.
Time Wasting EXHAUSTS sex workers unlike any other industry. It steals the magic.
IT STEALS THE MAGIC!
They are robbing you.
Yes time wasters are women too.
She sends you photos of outfits she wants to wear for you. She calls using an international number and claims she’s just flown into town. Could you meet her tonight?
Can you help her?
But all along, you guessed it, it’s a man, and he won’t pay a deposit or show up to the booking.
Because in actual fact he’s in the UK.
Imagine the time it must take to contact so many sex workers like that?
‘Oh my god, that guy!’
Or what about the guy who texts and emails straight male sex workers pretending to be a woman?
The sheer energy and effort that goes into time wasting can be extrordinary. Hours and hours spent contacting sex workers, describing scenarios, pretending to want to make a booking.
You name a form of communication, a Time Waster has used it to contact a sex worker on.
I GUARANTEE IT
I mean we have to do something under the deluge, under the constant HARRASMENT
In the not too distant future it will be impossible for anyone to get an appointment without one.
Completely fascinated by someone who spends hours and hours, lying to people they don’t even know.
Hours spent making plans that never eventuate, hours spent deliberately and falsely representing themselves.
To what benefit?
Is it the fun of anticipating what would happen in the booking?
Is it the thrill of knowing the worker is getting ready to see them and they won’t show?
Is it just fun because they thinks the worker is stupid and enjoys wasting their time?
There is something that lies beneath this act. There is something sinister about Time Wasting. There is something deeply entitled about it. There is something there that is slightly psychopathic.
Don’t you think that’s really odd?
That thousands of people felt entitled to waste my time. My energy, my focus....for an unspecified reason?
And don’t think I haven’t asked.
I have.
When I twig someone’s a TW I always ask them why they do it.
No one has ever given me an answer. Not one. Ever.
They just go silent...
And addicted.
But they don’t stop.
It never ends but it does get less. Why?
Because TWs save the numbers of sex workers who call them out. They stop contacting those sex workers who don’t give them satisfaction.
No, it’s something more.
It’s about the game.
Time Wasting evolves too. Can you believe it?
Time Wasters actively seek new ways to waste our time.
They actively seek out NEW ways to waste time.
A normal person would struggle to understand the motivations for time wasting. It seems so stupid, right?
No, TW’s think they are VERY clever. Because a TW doesn’t want an appointment, it’s very likely they’ve never even seen a sex worker. At all...ever.
What a Time Waster seeks...is control.
People who have good jobs and happy family lives aren’t Time Wasters.
In case you haven’t noticed I’m rather an astute observer of human behaviour. I’ve been paying attention for a long time and I’ve got the number.
Time Wasters work menial and or repetitive jobs and have disappointing personal lives.
Sex workers.
They search them out, target them and attempt to lure and control them. And when they succeed, they feel a rush of personal power, they finally feel successful.
And so they do it again.
And control is addictive and takes on many forms. Time Wasters seek control over others and this is the best they can do, in a pathetic tiny life.
Remind yourself this TW is weak, they want control.
Don’t give it. Don’t let them see you disappointed or angry. That’s what they want.
Just cut them off. Don’t text or write back.
Just shut them down.
Understand providers deal with Time Wasters constantly, so follow the individual guidelines to contacting us.
Those guidelines are there to weed out TWs. Follow them. Provide whatever information the worker asks for without delay.
And don’t resent it. We aren’t punishing you. We are protecting ourselves, our business and ultimately our performance for you.
It sucks, but now that I understand it, I’m finding it a little easier to deal with