A Thread
If you’ve been a provider for even a short length of time you’ve had a prospective client ask for photos. Regardless of the fact you may have lots of photos in your advertising, this client wants more.
What they are referring to is something called “catfishing”
We’ve all seen the MTV show.
So catfishing in sex work is when the photos in the advertisement don’t match the sex worker in person.
Why would workers put photos up that are not themselves? Wouldn’t they think that was a bad method of advertising?
May is from Vietnam and has been working in Australia for 18 months. I don’t want to give away anything about May that is identifiable or incriminating so we’ll just stick with the relevant stuff.
“Australian’s cannot tell the difference between one Asian and another”
I asked her if she really believed that was true. And she replied emphatically
“Yes”
“No” she replied
Had any of the workers she worked with experienced walk outs because they didn’t match the photos
“No”
“Our clients want cheap services with an Asian girl. They won’t pay more. They expect a lot for a tiny price. This is how we work it to our advantage”
“Yes. Asian worker means cheaper worker here. And clients still try to barter. So you don’t get real photos for such cheap money”
The plot was thickening.
An acquaintance of mine had had her professional photos stolen a couple of years ago and had found out by accident when looking through Backpage one day.
I knew she had contacted the worker who stole her photos. Maybe she had answers...
“I rang this worker up and at first I was really angry. She’d stolen my photos and was potentially harming my brand. But surprisingly she was nice and didn’t realise the harm she was causing me.
It turns out this girl was up from the country, homeless and broke”
I asked if Vanessa thought this worker might just go and steal photos from another worker?
I wondered if the girl who stole Vanessa’s photos had experienced walk outs?
Vanessa didn’t know.
But now I’m left with more questions still...
So could it be a clever way to get phones and also create a division between sex workers?
How can we help other workers and take a stand against creating division within our ranks.
“Yes well, not the end of the world. Photos are expensive. Not all sex workers are lucky enough to be able to afford photos”
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Stay
If they choose to leave they didn’t lose money. They kept their money
If they chose to stay. That was their choice