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Shafiqah Othman @sfqomhz
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What is promoting zina? "You should have sex before marriage!"

What is NOT promoting zina? "We cannot dictate people's choices to have sex before/after marriage, but they should learn safe sex to avoid STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and coercion/manipulation."
I've been getting tweets like these saying that teaching safe sex is basically teaching "safe zina".

The main problem here is that one group focuses on the word "zina", while another is focused on the word "safe".

I understand that religion plays a huge role in the lives of Muslims so naturally they think enforcing abstinence is the way to tackle these issues.

Unfortunately, teaching/enforcing abstinence does not solve these problems. People will always find a way around it.
Having toured with @myUNICEF before, the amount of sex-related issues (unwanted pregnancies, incest, sexual abuse etc.) within children is alarming and truly heartbreaking.

I hate to admit that they're more rampant in more conservative states, like Kelantan and Terengganu.
Like many have mentioned, you cannot dictate whether people will have pre-marital sex or not. They will do it if they want — even if secretly.

On top of that, there are those who are manipulated and coerced into sexual relations. Please don't leave these people out.
Sex education is not just teaching safe sex, but also encompasses knowledge they need to know regarding their body, reproductive health, and relationships.

It's either we teach them, or they end up looking to strangers on the internet to help quench their curiosity.
Out of 16.8 million internet users in Malaysia, the youths make up 40% of these numbers.

While it is true that the internet is a haven of information, it is also filled with a lot of dangers and risks. We need to ensure that people get their information from reliable sources.
Even if we take technology and internet out of the picture, we cannot disregard the urban poor/rural folks who do not have access to these facilities.

Because of lack of information, these people are some of the most vulnerable to sex-related health and social issues.
You can continue teaching abstinence in Pendidikan Islam. No one is saying that we should leave it out of the syllabus entirely.

All I'm saying is that teaching abstinence is not enough, and neither is enforcing it.
Yes. However, seeing how hard parties are working to curb these issues, it means something is lacking in our ways.

I'm no teacher. I don't have a module. But I can suggest we turn to other countries for an outline and refining it to fit our local context.
When I travelled with UNICEF, we also worked together with FHRAM and the D11 unit of PDRM.

Sexual-related issues goes beyond just "not teaching abstinence enough". It encompasses many things; culture, technology, economic divides, awareness etc.
Like I mentioned, the problem is when different groups focus on different words. Eg. "safe" vs "zina"

We need to understand that these issues are not exclusive to Muslims only. We need to first start being inclusive.
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