For some reason I’ve seen a number of replies lately to people’s “assholes are shitty to me because (my identity/activities/interests) and that sucks,” to the effect of “only YOU can allow other people to make you feel bad. BE STRONG! STOP CARING WHAT THEY SAY!” and: wtf?
“I myself manage not to care what people say! I live my life the way I want to! Conveniently, people are not being shitty to me for the same reason they are to you, and yet I’m running my mouth anyway because I think that helps somehow!”
Or, have you considered: other people could just... not be assholes? Maybe the responsibility should be on them to be civil/empathetic/mind-their-own-businessing and just... not?
TBH I *do* tend to ignore hostility, but... I don’t know, I don’t get parachuting in to tell someone with hurt feelings that they should just launch into their own personal Let It Go impression. People: I don’t understand them.
This goes with what I said yesterday about the bullshit idea of “Go fix yourself.” Buddy, I am 24/7 trying to Fix Myself™, why aren’t you telling people who actually hurt/harass others to do that?
