it’s a way of taking back control of a conversation that makes you uncomfortable by focusing on the emotions instead of the issue
“hey maybe she has a valid point, but who can tell when she’s so shrill and hysterical”
as if emotions aren’t an essential part of the issues we need to discuss
as if progress only comes from civility
if their tone is making you uncomfortable, take a seat
maybe this isn’t a conversation you’re ready for, but you sure as hell don’t get to dictate how they have it with anyone else