Thread by @lannadelgrey

Everyone. Needs. To. Read. This.

More specifically, every man in my life needs to read this. vox.com/2018/9/10/1782…

"I am but half-woke, still reckoning with the instincts and perspectives my upbringing wrote into my code. But I think I can do a decent job explaining, for my more skeptical dude readers... the rudiments of #MeToo — just what it is women see that many men do not."

"It goes like this: Sexual discrimination, harassment, and abuse are everywhere. They are not isolated cases, not rare, and not confined to the powerful or famous. They constitute an ongoing, systemic crisis. #MeToo is meant to draw attention to that crisis...

..Talking about the perpetrators 'moving on with their lives' at all, much less with sympathy and solicitude, is a clear signal that the moral weight and severity of the crisis has not sunk in. We’re still not taking this shit seriously."

"The movement is not about high-profile abusers. The point is not to punish a handful of powerful men to get some kind of vengeful thrill.

Highlighting the abuses of the powerful is meant to illuminate the fact that those sorts of abuses are ubiquitous."

"Sexual harassment and abuse go on all over the place, in virtually every institution of American life. Wherever there is a power differential... men very frequently use it to harass, intimidate, and assault women. It is going on all around us, as we speak."

"But my dudes: Women know there are gradations of abuse. They are scholars on the subject."

on the "spectrum" of sexual violence and misogyny

"There is an undercurrent of danger in even the most mundane parts of a woman’s day, in any space containing a man or to which a man might have access."

"And it’s not just the sexism — it’s the ever-present possibility of it, in every context. Knowing misogyny is everywhere, but never knowing for certain how much of it is involved in any particular interaction, is crazy-making."