Thread by @ronaldnzimora

How to Overcome Your Fear of Selling Yourself, Your Products or Your Services

For some reason a lot of people FEAR selling. Yet selling is an essential life skill.

It will give you money, help you create massive wealth, get you highly placed friends, get you anything you want.

So why are people deathly afraid of selling?

Here's my theory. people do just fine with communication but once it gets to the point where they have to ask for money, their minds blocks stemming from childhood kick in making them drop the ball.

And to avoid ever asking, they...

simply do not even bother to sell at all. When you were young, I bet you were taught not to take money from strangers, to run if they offered you some. While that advice was great for the purpose, it's also created an image in out heads that makes us associate asking for money...

with unpleasant consequences. But selling doesn't always have to involve an exchange of money.
In case you don't realize it yet, you have been selling all your life.

Want evidence? Here's some.

If you have a wife, you SOLD her on marrying you...

If you have a husband, you sold him on choosing you to ask for your hand in marriage.

If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you sold each other on dating yourselves.

If you have a job, you sold your employees on hiring you.

If you have children, you SELL them everyday on...

doing the right thing, acting right, etc.

You haggle in the market and sell the traders on giving you discounts on goods.

You sell people to do JVs and partner with you.

You need to sell something everyday for life to function. So why do people think selling is evil?

It's because selling creates friction, and people don't like friction. They think they aren't good enough, that their product/service isn't quality enough, that they don't deserve what they want.

Sounds silly but it's true.

Below is how to overcome the fear of selling:

1. Stop seeking validation from the outside.

You are good enough, your product is good enough, your service is good enough, so just find people who are okay with your "good enough", serve them spectacularly and ignore everyone else.

Do you know how many places you can buy food?

You can buy from a roadside Mamaput, where stalls are separated by dirty curtains,or from a local restaurant, or from a high upper one or from a hotel?

Do you think the woman who sells in the Mamaput is worried about those folks who eat in hotel restaurants not patronizing her?

But she serves the bus conductor,the motor park tout and whoever else cares for her "good enough" well.

This is why you must figure out your niche market. And when you do,focus on serving them and ignore every other bozo. Stop worrying about people and things you cannot control

2. Stop basing your emotional wellbeign on the outcome of a sales call or presentation.

Put an end that emotional attachment you have on the outcome of you trying to sell something to somebody.

If someone doesn't buy something from you, heavens won't fall, and you won't die.

Go in feeling OK. Go in without feeling any need for a specific outcome. When you give up the need to “get” something, the energy of the entire situation changes. And oddly enough, you tend to increase your chances of getting something.)

Of course it's one thing to say this and another thing entirely to feel it.

But it's what you must do: practice emotional detachment from the outcome.

That’s the key to freedom.

Selling doesn’t mean you get what you want all the time. If all want is to get what YOU WANT,...

your true motivations will become apparent to everyone soon enough. And when it does, people will trust you less, they will like you less, they will go elsewhere, and they will never buy from you.

Being in full time “sales mode” is a great way to send them
running away fast.

This doesn’t mean you walk around like a robot, devoid of all feeling. It means that you focus your energy on things you do control and not waste it by directing it at things you do not control.

Those are the secrets. Create them in your own being and live joyfully.

God speed.