Thread by @shrikanth_krish

It is the season of high profile weddings in India. Most recently that of the Ambani kid - hogging social media attention

Interestingly the Ambani kid's wedding came just a day before "Vivaha Panchami" - a day that marks the glorious wedding of Rama and Sita in Ramayana

Sita Kalyanam is an event that has fascinated Hindus for many centuries, across geographies

In fact there have been films dedicated to depicting Sita Swayamvar, notably in 1934, when there was a Tamil film titled "Sita Kalyanam"

The film was remade in Telugu and was a major hit

The theme was revisited yet again in 1976, when there was another "Sita Kalyanam" shot in Telugu, and also remade in Hindi as Sita Swayamvar

So clearly this is a theme that has remained big in the Hindu psyche

Sita's marriage as we are all aware was a "Swayamvara" - a practice where the husband is chosen among a wide range of suitors who are invited to the occasion. Particularly common in Vedic India, among royal families

Swayamvaras came in different types.

Some involved the girl choosing her husband among a list of suitors by her own volition

Others involved an added step - the father of the bride posts a challenge, and gives his Kanya away to the person who meets the challenge successfully

The Swayamvara of Kunti, where Kuntibhoja's foster daughter chose Pandu as her husband is of the former type.

The Swayamvaras of Draupadi and Sita are of the latter type

Sita's Swayamvara occurs in Bala Kanda - the first book of Valmiki Ramayana.

The great sage Vishwamitra takes Rama and his anuja Lakshmana along to the country of Mithila where the great king Janaka is holding the swayamvara for his daughter Janaki

The challenge posted by Janaka involves the successful lifting and stringing of the great bow of Shiva, that rested in the house of Janaka.

A challenge at which many great princes failed until Rama came along

Here's Janaka addressing Vishwamitra after the sage has reached Mithila

"तदेतन्मुनिशार्दूल धनु: परमभास्वरम्।
रामलक्ष्मणयोश्चापि दर्शयिष्यामि सुव्रत।।

"O Sage you are a tiger among asceties, you are faithful to your vows, I shall show this effulgent bow to your Rama, Lakshmana"

यद्यस्य धनुषो राम: कुर्यादारोपणं मुने।
सुतामयोनिजां सीतां दद्यां दाशरथेरहम्।।

"O Sage if Rama could lift and string this bow I shall give my daughter Sita, not born from a woman, to him (son of Dasaratha)"

At Vishwamitra's request, the bow is shown to Rama. But bringing the bow in front of Rama is no mean task

नृणां शतानि पञ्चाशद्व्यायतानां महात्मनाम्।
मञ्जूषामष्टचक्रां तां समूहुस्ते कथञ्चन।।

"Five thousand mighty stalwarts drew with great difficulty the eightwheeled cart on which the bow was placed in a box"

Then Rama steps forward

पश्यतां नृपसहस्राणां बहूनां रघुनन्दन: ।
आरोपयत्स धर्मात्मा सलीलमिव तद्धनु:।।

"Virtuous Rama, the delight of the Raghus, in the presence of several thousands of men fixed the string to the bow and drew it as though with ease"

आरोपयित्वा धर्मात्मा पूरयामास तद्धनु:।
तद्बभञ्ज धनुर्मध्ये नरश्रेष्ठो महायशा:।।

"Rama, the best among men, righteous and famous lifted the bow. Stringing it with a twang he drew it and broke it into two in the middle"

This feat stuns the crowd

निपेतुश्च नरा स्सर्वे तेन शब्देन मोहिता:।
वर्जयित्वा मुनिवरं राजानं तौ च राघवौ।।

"On hearing the sound, except Janaka, Viswamitra and the two raghavas (Rama and Lakshmana) the rest of the people around fell down and fainted"

This is an interesting shloka that refers t not just Rama but also Lakshmana as a "Raghava" (belonging to the clan of Raghu)

After heartily expressing his elation at Rama's feat, Janaka says -

जनकानां कुले कीर्तिमाहरिष्यति मे सुता।
सीता भर्तारमासाद्य रामं दशरथात्मजम्।।

By receiving Rama, son of Dasaratha, as her husband, my daughter Sita will bring glory to my dynasty

मम सत्या प्रतिज्ञा च वीर्यशुल्केति कौशिक।
सीता प्राणैर्बहुमता देया रामाय मे सुता।।

"O Kaushika (i.e Vishwamitra) I announce Sita to be the 'Reward of prowess'. My vow has come true. She is more valuable than my life and fit to be given to Rama

Then it occurs to Janaka that Rama's father needs to be informed of his son's triumph and the impending wedding

भवतोऽनुमते ब्रह्मन् शीघ्रं गच्छन्तु मन्त्रिण:।
मम कौशिक भद्रं ते अयोध्यां त्वरिता रथै:।।

"O Brahmarshi Kausika, be blessed With your consent my ministers will take the chariots to Ayodhya immediately"

"राजानं प्रश्रितैर्वाक्यैरानयन्तु पुरं मम।
प्रदानं वीर्यशुल्काया: कथयन्तु च सर्वश:।।

"That Sita, the reward of prowess is to be given to Rama be reverentially communicated in detail to king Dasaratha and he may be conveyed here"

But Ayodhya is not too near Mithila

जनकेन समादिष्टा दूतास्ते क्लान्तवाहना:
त्रिरात्रमुषिता मार्गे तेऽयोध्यां प्राविशन् पुरीम्

"Commanded by Janaka the messengers travelled for 3 days, rested for three nights on the way and entered the city of Ayodhya along with their horses"

This is interesting because 3 days of journey is just about right when one considers the presently understood locations of Ayodhya (Central UP) and Mithila (modern Bihar-Nepal border) and the modes of transport available at the time

Dasharatha is overjoyed at the news, and tells the messengers that he will start with them tomorrow, to reach Mithila

It takes the entourage 4 days to reach Mithila from Ayodhya

Then Janaka and Dasharatha agree to undertake the wedding the following day, but only after Janaka completes a Vedic sacrifice

जनकोऽपि महातेजा: क्रियां धर्मेण तत्त्ववित्।।
यज्ञस्य च सुताभ्यां च कृत्वा रात्रिमुवास ह ।

"Mighty philosopher Janaka performed the sacrificial rites and spent the night (there where the sacrificial ceremony was performed) with both his daughters"

The following day just before marriage, there ensues a detailing of the two clans that are coming together

Vasishta, the priest of the Ikshvakus, takes the trouble of addressing Janaka at length, and listing the lineage of Rama

After listing all of Rama's ancestors, he concludes

आदिवंशविशुद्धानां राज्ञां परमधर्मिणाम्।
इक्ष्वाकुकुलजातानां वीराणां सत्यवादिनाम्।।
रामलक्ष्मणयोरर्थे त्वत्सुते वरये नृप।
सदृशाभ्यां नृपश्रेष्ठ सदृशे दातुमर्हसि।।

"O King be gracious enough to give your equally accomplished two daughters in mariage to Rama and Lakshmana who are born in the family of Ikshvakus kings possessing the purity of race right from the beginning. They are highly virtuous, heroic, and truthful"

But Janaka is not going to let this opportunity pass quietly :)

He responds with a detailed listing of his family's lineage that culminates with Sita

Then he utters these words

वीर्यशुल्कां मम सुतां सीतां सुरसुतोपमाम्
द्वितीयामूर्मिलां चैव त्रिर्ददामि न संशय:

"I offer my daughter Sita, who looks like a celestial maiden to Rama and my second daughter Urmila (to Lakshmana). I proclaim 3 times so that there is no doubt about it

Then Janaka says something that suggests that gifting of cows often preceded weddings in those times

"ददामि परमप्रीतो वध्वौ ते रघुनन्दन।।
रामलक्ष्मणयो राजन् गोदानं कारयस्व ह।
पितृकार्यं च भद्रं ते ततो वैवाहिकं कुरु।।

"O Delight of the Raghus (King Dasaratha), I offer these brides with immense pleasure to Rama and Lakshmana. You may perform the rites for your forefathers by gift of cows. Prosperity to you. Thereafter you may perform the marriage."

"मखा ह्यद्य महाबाहो तृतीये दिवसे प्रभो।
फल्गुन्यामुत्तरे राजंस्तस्मिन्वैवाहिकं कुरु।।
रामलक्ष्मणयो राजन् दानं कार्यं सुखोदयम् ।।

""Today the star Makha is on the ascendant. O King perform the marriage on the, third day from today under UttaraPhalguni star. Gifts may be given for the happiness of Rama and Lakshmana"

This suggests that gift-giving characterized marriages even back then

In the meantime there is also an agreement reached that Janaka's nieces will also be married to Dasaratha's two other sons - Bharata and Shatrugna

एवं भवतु भद्रं व: कुशध्वजसुते इमे।
पत्न्यौ भजेतां सहितौ शत्रुघ्नभरतावुभौ।।

""Let it be so, Be blessed Let these two daughters of Kusadhwaja (Mandavi and Srutakirti) be the wives of Satrughna and Bharata respectively and serve them"

But the marriage does not happen immediately as suggested earlier in the text. A date is set, but in the meantime Dasharatha undertakes the Shraadh of his forefathers

स गत्वा निलयं राजा श्राद्धं कृत्वा विधानत:।
प्रभाते काल्यमुत्थाय चक्रे गोदानमुत्तमम्।।

"The king (Dasaratha) performed the sharaddha ceremony in accordance with the scriptures. Next day at dawn at appropriate time he gifted away cows (a ceremony performed by initiating the bridegrooms into the marriage.)

Then Dasharatha engages in the donation of cows to brahmins

"गवां शतसहस्राणि ब्राह्मणेभ्यो नराधिप:।
एकैकशो ददौ राजा पुत्रानुद्दिश्य धर्मत:।।

"For the welfare of each of his sons the king (Dasaratha) religiously gave away a hundred thousand cows to brahmins"

In the meantime, the wedding has a surprise visitor - Yudhajit, the prince of Kekeya, the maternal uncle of Bharata, Dasharatha's second son

"श्रुत्वा त्वहमयोध्यायां विवाहार्थं तवात्मजान् ।
मिथिलामुपयातांस्तु त्वया सह महीपते।।
त्वरयाभ्युपयातोऽहं द्रष्टुकाम स्स्वसुस्सुतम्।

"O King having heard in Ayodhya that you have arrived in Mithila along with your sons for their marriage I came here speedily with a desire to see my sister's son"

In the meantime Rama gets ready for marriage on the D-day

युक्ते मुहूर्ते विजये सर्वाभरणभूषितै:।
भ्रातृभिस्सहितो राम: कृतकौतुकमंगल:।।
वसिष्ठं पुरत: कृत्वा महर्षीनपरानपि।
पितु स्समीपमाश्रित्य तस्थौ भ्रातृभिरावृत:।।

"With the necessary auspicious rites preparatory to marriage performed at an auspicious moment, Vijaya, and keeping Vasishta and other maharshis in the forefront, Rama accompanied by his brothers adorned with ornaments of every kind came into his father's presence"

The daughters of Janaka have also completed the "rites" in the meantime

कृतकौतुकसर्वस्वा वेदिमूलमुपागता:
मम कन्या मुनिश्रेष्ठ दीप्ता वह्नेरिवार्चिष:।

"O Best of ascetics my daughters have performed all the rites relating to marriage. They (now) stand at the foot of the altar shining like the bright flames of fire"

Then the king of Videha asks Vasishta to formalize the marriage. And Vasishta responds -

"तथेत्युक्त्वा तु जनकं वसिष्ठो भगवानृषि:।
विश्वामित्रं पुरस्कृत्य शतानन्दं च धार्मिकम्।।
प्रपामध्ये तु विधिवत्वेदिं कृत्वा महातपा:।
अलञ्चकार तां वेदिं गन्धपुष्पै स्समन्तत:।।

सुवर्णपालिकाभिश्च छिद्रकुम्भैश्च साङ्कुरै:।
अङ्कुराढ्यैश्शरावैश्च धूपपात्रै स्सधूपकै:।।
शङ्खपात्रै स्स्रुवै स्स्रुग्भि: पात्रैरर्घ्याभिपूरितै:।
लाजपूर्णैश्च पात्रीभिरक्षतैरभिसंस्कृतै:।।

"Venerable and renowned ascetic Vasishta said "Be it so".And with Viswamitra and virtuous Satananda in the forefront, an altar was duly improvised in the centre of the sacrificial pavilion. He adorned the altar on all sides with fragrant flowers, golden ladles, waterpots .."

"..with holes filled with sprouts, earthen vessels with sprouts, holders of burning fragrant incense conchshaped vessels, sacrificial ladles, bowls filled with with water for arghya and other purposes, vessels with roasted paddy and grains of rice"

"दर्भैस्समैस्समास्तीर्य विधिवन्मन्त्रपूर्वकम्।
अग्निमादाय वेद्यां तु विधिमन्त्रपुरस्कृतम्।।
जुहावाग्नौ महातेजा वसिष्ठो भगवानृषि:।

"Brilliant and worshipful rishi Vasishta chanted, mantras according to tradition, put the darbha grass of equal proportions around the altar, placed the fire on the altar, recited the mantras from the scriptures and offered oblations into the flame"

ततस्सीतां समानीय सर्वाभरणभूषिताम्।।
समक्षमग्ने स्संस्थाप्य राघवाभिमुखे तदा।
अब्रवीज्जनको राजा कौसल्यानन्दवर्धनम्।।

इयं सीता मम सुता सहधर्मचरी तव।
प्रतीच्छ चैनां भद्रं ते पाणिं गृह्णीष्व पाणिना।।

पतिव्रता महाभागा छायेवानुगता सदा।
इत्युक्त्वा प्राक्षिपद्राजा मन्त्रपूतं जलं तदा।।

Thereafter king Janaka brought Sita placed her in the presence of Agni in front of Rama, the enhancer of the joy of Kausalya. And said

"This my daughter Sita will be your partner in performing her rightful duty. Accept her. Farewell. Take her hand into your own"

"By being a devoted wife this highly fortunate Sita would always follow you like a shadow". Thus spoken, he sprinkled the water sanctified with mantras (on them)"

The same procedure is then repeated for the other three brides. Finally -

अग्निं प्रदक्षिणीकृत्य वेदिं राजानमेव च।
ऋषींश्चैव महात्मानस्सभार्या रघुसत्तमा:।।
यथोक्तेन तदा चक्रुर्विवाहं विधिपूर्वकम्।

"The great, noble princes of the race of Raghu, accompanied by their wives circumambulated the altar of the sacred fire. King Janaka and the sages in obedience to the directions of Vasishta and in accordance with the sastras conducted the matrimonial"

The gods cheer to mark this occasion from their celestial heights...And finally everyone departs to their tents

"अथोपकार्यां जग्मुस्ते सभार्या रघुनन्दना:।
राजाऽप्यनुययौ पश्यंत्सर्षिसंघ स्सबान्धव:।।

"Thereafter the descendants of Raghu along with their wives departed for their tents. The king (Dasaratha) also accompanied them with hosts of rishis and relatives"

This is then followed by a confrontation of the party with Parashurama, a skirmish with the great sage, before the return of the boys and their brides to Ayodhya

So that concludes our quick perusal of Sita Kalyanam

Whats striking is the blow-by-blow account accorded to it by the poet - something that is seldom ever done for any other wedding

Whats also striking is the keen attention to ritual, which typifies vaIdIka weddings to this day

It is also interesting how Dasharatha does not neglect his duty of doing Shraadh, even on the eve of his son's wedding.

The elation at the impending good news does not cause him to forget his ritual obligations.

Something for us all to reflect on and imbibe

Postscript : The shlokas and the translations excerpted from the fine IIT Kanpur resource for Valmiki Ramayana.

valmiki.iitk.ac.in