Lot's of people are talking about getting organized in 2019, and, more specifically, how grim they find their chances of getting organized in 2019.
I have suggestions.
But my dad used to tell me that if you want to learn to play golf, you don't ask Tiger Woods.
Don't ask the natural, you ask the person who had to fight for every step. Who knows every way to fuck it up.
Friends, that's me.
And they fuck it up in varying ways!
Take the age old "make a to-do list!" advice. Did you cringe reading that? I kind of did. Classic advice from naturally organized people.
Do you get overwhelmed and anxious and shut down and not do anything?
Do you lose the list?
Do you forget to update the list?
Do you dither on how detailed to make the list and quit halfway through
This word is not your friend. This word is built on expectations of naturally organized people. You have likely been told you "should" be able to keep a planner. You "should" be able to be on time easily and reliably.
Should is a word made for a world we don't live in. Should doesn't care about our actual brain and your actual barriers.
We need to talk about your actual brain.
Your brain is the cat, ok? Above all, learn to make peace with the brain you have.
But I lose planners, and I get overwhelmed with long lists. These issues needed solutions.
Did that look silly? Yes. Do not give a shit. It worked.
I kind of resented having to do that. I felt like I shouldn't need to.
But, again, fuck the word "should".
I'm telling you to pin down the EXACT place your organization breaks down and do whatever ridiculous thing you have to do to take care of that. Shamelessly.
It may take months. It may take years. Try to be kind to yourself about it. That's a lot more normal than you think.
It's about getting barriers out of your way so you can do what you want. It's about letting go of feelings that hurt you, so you can be who you need to be to be the person you want to be.
You can't hate yourself into a better version of yourself. So give yourself permission to do what you need to.
But I’m juggling a LOT and by damn I’m WINNING.