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@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry Can we please be sensitive that: 1) International draft guidelines presently would ban uterine transplants unless the woman has working ovaries; 2) Surrogacy is widely banned (& TERFs are spreading that); 3) Adoption regulations widely make trans adoption very difficult

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 2/ As trans communities, globally we need to form nuanced answers to this. Individual needs, circumstances, locations/laws, differ so much. For my own part, I realised, because I had adopted cousins, in my 2nd year, when figuring how to "come out"…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 3/ that adopting was a way to be a mother (which I knew I wanted) even if it weren't possible other ways, but circumstances never were that it could happen, & adoption rules here in the UK still make it very difficult - the child has to consent to be adopted by a trans person…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 4/…so has to be old enough to understand, & that's on top of the privacy implications, and the financial and accommodation stability required of all adopters. But in my late-40s, with a partner who had small grand children & many friends with small families, I got miserably…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 5/…"broody" (a condition insufficiently recognised), so that early rationalisation had been insufficiently informed. I'm certain it would have been the same if the child had been born from my own gametes too. Best, still, in my 70s, to avoid such triggers…

So when we see…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 6/…say an 8yo girl dreaming of being pregnant, & a mother, how should she best be aware of her possible options? Is a talk about possible surrogacy (that may be illegal, or too expensive when the time comes), developing male until sperm can be collected, in case she turns out…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 7/…lesbian & has a partner anxious to bear joint children (my first partner, at the time when lesbians having children ceasing to be legally impossible, was a soft butch, & utterly averse to being pregnant, ever) the best approach, or something that comes from women with…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 8/…quite different experiences/needs? How to ensure that aspect of their consent to agonists is suitably informed? Does the ticking clock & broodiness need explaining (there's almost zero literature), or is it just an aspect of being female & turning out to be infertile? Where…

@AlexEKimball @Chican3ry 9/…is the counselling for children who learn they cannot, unless medicine really turns a page, hope to bear children, or shouldn't, for genetic reasons? It isn't only trans girls learn that. But then where is any counselling to get past the different experiences of being trans?

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