'Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.'
Carl Jung realized this a century ago. He never realized it would destroy Western society.
Children born the past few decades have been raised into weakness and helplessness. The broken culture has made sure of it where hare-brained parents haven’t.
It's a gruesome and protracted process, punctuated by many failures and the pains of growth.
Much easier to sedate oneself with comfort food, dumbphone distractions and support groups.
Let my own life be an example – one you should not repeat.
So she projected.
Her emphatic defensiveness and cautiousness amplified mine, so I moved into life much more slowly than I otherwise would have.
Every time there’s a chance I’ll have to relive the same cycles and the same patterns. Obviously, she doesn’t project them on me alone.
He was lazy and financially reckless for much of his life. That was a reflection of his own father’s unlived life – he had been an alcoholic and died young. So my father grew up mostly fatherless.
As did I.
I mostly feared him and avoided him because I found his behaviour unconscionable. The times when I didn’t, I was usually the one taking care of him, as I do until this day.
I’d have none of it, but this unlived life of his comes up every time I call.
But they also held me back. I was always pinching pennies and thinking defensively – obsessed with safety and survival, not growth.
I was living, by force, my mother’s unlived life of someone who has to overcome fears and indecision.
I’m on good terms with my parents because I took stock of all this a long time ago.
There’s no bitterness in me, only disappointment – for their lot, not mine.
Life experience has taught me that most people end up with unlived lives like this. The type and level of self-inflicted misery varies, but the pattern of denial and stunted growth is the same.
We can do a lot to prepare for this ultrafragile volatile world.
You have choices to make.
This involves dealing head-on with the issues you’ve been avoiding your whole life.
There are no exceptions to this rule.
Find out what the touchpoints are and devise ways to avoid being cornered into a lifetime of lacking or compensation.
Otherwise you will end up carrying the cognitive baggage forward to your children.
If you live the unlived lives of the parent, you will end up with unlived lives of your own.
End the misery relay and take charge. Or don't.
You choose, as always.
Riding on comfort, debt and easy money, most boomers never learnt responsibility.
So they left the millennial generation with their unlived guilt – and mountains of debt.
The individual is projected on the societal.
What we do personally, the generations after us often have to live out for centuries.
We must accept what is, so we can create what will be.
Let the dead world burn and focus on your own life and Character.
Your own Integrity is your first contribution to the new future.
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