Thread by @IngriPauline

You need to talk to your kids about sex often

It needs to be a comfortable subject in the house

Talk about the emotional, physical, consequential, energetic and moral aspects of it

Sex is not good or bad but it is a big deal

They need to know that

In my family, we talked about sex often. It wasn't a big deal. It would just sometimes come up as conversations professed

This was WAY DIFFERENT from most of my friends who had "THE TALK" once and never discussed it with their parents again

Not me and my bros

My dad talked about sex from the Bible, from the text books and from the news stories

We got all perspectives

No, we didn't talk about sex all the time. We just didn't avoid the issue

As a result all three of us kids have healthy sex lives and attitudes toward sex

We didn't get in toxic relationships with ppl bc the sex was good, none of us slept around, we did use it as a rebellion or escape and none had porn addiction

And yes, I talk about sex with my brothers. Not in the same way I talk about it with my girlfriends but it not a secret

The point is, avoiding this subject will only get you in trouble with your kids

You don't want them over exposed to sex but don't keep it in the dark either

It's only because of the bravery and frankness of my dad (and mom) that I was discerning about to whom I gave my body

Talk to them

Tell them the good parts, tell them the bad parts, tell them how people abuse it or lash out, tell them the motivations of most men under 25 and townies around military bases and answer questions

None of this can be covered in one conversation

It will take a lifetime of openness and honsety to make a good impression on the sexual attitudes of your future adult

You can't shield them and you can't protect them but you can arm them with factual and philosophical knowledge that will allow them to make healthy decisions