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1 like = 1 take on patriarchy
1. Righteous patriarchy is God’s supreme organizational model & leads to ultimate fulfillment & joy for all parties - men, women & children
2. Your relationship w/own father determines your attitude regarding God and patriarchal leadership more than any single factor
3. Male or female, it’s perfectly healthy to be a little intimidated or fearful of your father if he also leaves you confident he’ll never misuse his power/authority to harm you, but won’t hesitate to use it to protect you.
4. All women seek for & flourish under the leadership of a righteous patriarch whether they’ll admit it or not
5. Women who disagree w/this are in denial or want to usurp the role of patriarch for themselves. Ironically they’re more likely to be tyrannical than the men they resent.
6. The ultimate role of a patriarch is to preside over, provide for & protect all those under his stewardship. Only this situation allows women & children to flourish & focus on the meat of what matters most.
7. Your relationship with your spouse will more deeply impact your children than anything else they witness inside or outside of your home
8. If a man won’t lead as a righteous patriarch, but instead defers that role to his wife, both will resent him for it. He’ll become impotent, she’ll become a shrew, and both will resent her for it.
9. If a male refuses to become a man & instead remains a boy, he shouldn’t be surprised when his wife treats him like a child & he & she both resent him for it.
10. Men don’t let your frustration with your own father’s absence of patriarchal leadership morph into your bullying your own sons to overcompensate for what you think you missed. That’s not leadership, it’s tyranny. Your sons want your approval more than anything else. Don’t
exploit that innate desire at their short or long-term expense.
11. The only effective mode of leadership is example
12. It’s a father’s job to repent first
13. Leaders serve first and eat last
14. There is no task above your dignity or status – especially at home. Christ didn’t ask his disciples to kiss his feet, he insisted on washing theirs - you can change diapers & do dishes
15. Take out the garbage without having to be asked.
16. Maintain all the vehicles in your home.
17. Married couples benefit from adopting & living within a budget, but each should have some money for which they are unaccountable to the other. Men, even if (or especially when) you are the sole breadwinner, your wife is not your child & you are not her parent. You are
peers & partners. Treat each other accordingly.
18. You OWE your wife and children the BLESSING of an unsullied name. Make sure you & yours bring honor to them, not embarrassment or shame.
19. Effective worthy patriarchs come in all shapes, sizes and types
20. What Spencer W. Kimball lacked in physical statue he more than compensated for in spiritual stature & fearless leadership.
21. Mature masculinity/patriarchal leadership is manifest via meekness not arrogance.
22. Meekness is not timidity, cowardice, uncertainty, or equivocation. Christ, the epitome of virtue & confidence said he was ‘meek & lowly’ (Matt 11:29) & admonished us to be meek (Matt 5:15) (see #20)
23. Never let your previous successes allow you to feel impervious to failure or temptation. The same David who slew wild beasts & a giant as a youth, & who won great battles as a man, lost his exaltation b/c he lacked self-control in his private life
24. Make sure your private life is even more virtuous than your public perception
25. There is nothing of greater worth than peace of conscience
26. Be honest, fair, and full of integrity in all business & personal transactions. There is no such thing as ‘just business’.
27. Make sure both your handshake and your word are your bond. Legal loopholes aren’t.
28. Just because something is legal doesn’t make it right. Do what is right.
29. Under promise and over deliver.
30. It’s ok for your kids to learn you can’t drop everything to be to every game or event in their lives. It’s not a 1x1 indication of how much you love them. Attend as often as reason & time allow, but well-intended misdirected parents have created an entire generation of
narcissists & we need fewer, not more of them.
31. Boys need dads to teach them how to be masculine, self-confident & self-reliant. Sometimes that comes thru sports, firearms, cars, & rough-housing. They need to be taught how & when to use violence & equally important - restraint. Men learn & respect the difference,
bullies & cowards don’t.
32. Girls need dads to give them direction, correction & appropriate male attention & affection. Girls who don’t get that will have life-long daddy issues & seek all those things from all sorts of wrong sources.
33. For centuries men have willingly marched into hell – dark mines, monstrous seas, bloody battlefields, to protect home & hearth so those they love don’t have to.
34. A wise woman makes her husband’s home a place of rest, respite, refuge & respect from that hell, not another form of it. One will endear him to you no matter what, the other will send him seeking support & solace elsewhere.
35. The selfless suffering & service a true patriarch willingly shoulders for those he loves is unparalleled. Most men’s suffering is voluntary. Most women’s suffering is involuntary. Neither would do as well if the roles were reversed.
36. During the first few minutes of a man’s life he is cradled in the lap of a woman who loves him, if he’s fortunate he’ll go out the same way.
37. A husband can intimidate or threaten his wife/kids into subordination but they’ll fear or resent him for it. A wife can manipulate her husband/kids via tears or tantrums & they’ll resent her for it. Ironically love & respect can get the desired result from all. It’ll take
longer, but last longer, too.
38. Un-coincidentally, much of America’s greatness is the result of the leadership of the father/patriarch of our country – George Washington. He led w/humility, never asked anything of his soldiers he wouldn’t do, sought & followed God’s direction, & inspired 1000s via
the strength of his character. When he refused to be king, even Napoleon was astonished. Aspire to have that level of humility when fame, fortune & position knock at your door.
39. Those who disparage The Founders b/c ‘tHe PaTRiAcHy’ while reaping the liberty, protection, & prosperity they enabled are like whiney 14-YO girls crying b/c they don’t have the latest iphone unaware of the mortgage, light bill, groceries, fuel, clothing &
nurture their parents are providing.
40. Regarding the bedroom - accept that generally men are like microwaves & women are like crock pots. A whole day of ‘cookin’ will get you the response you want. “Honey I’m home & hungry” won’t.
41. It’s good policy to not bring your work home with you, but don’t exclude your wife either. Discuss w/her some of the things happening there. Both of you will feel more connected.
42. Don’t question your wife’s judgment. Look who she married. 😉
43. If you’re only brave or funny after you’ve had a hit of drugs or alcohol, you’re neither brave nor funny.
44. If you’re not generous or philanthropic when you have $50 in your wallet, you won’t be when you have $500,000 in there either
45. Choose a wife who inspires you to be your best physical, mental, emotional, financial, spiritual self. If you date girls whose highest aspirations for you are a dad-bod & a dull dead-end desk job, aim higher. All work is noble, but you’re capable of more. & a good woman
will help you achieve & ascend.
46. If you’ve never had a job that left you physically exhausted at the end of an honest day’s labor you’re still a boy not a man. Get your hands dirty. Then scrub them clean. Earn some calluses. White collar work is difficult & laudable, but every man needs to wear out a pair
of work gloves in a trench.
47. Marry a woman who’ll get her hands dirty, too. One who’ll work as hard as you do physically, but also knows how to clean up & be feminine - i.e. she has a good manicure, but will chip a nail to do what needs to be done.
48. A woman’s body absolutely changes from pregnancy & birth. It’s the price we pay to get your/our children here. That’s not ever an excuse to just give up & let everything go, but both of you need to embrace that she may not look like a photo-shopped cover girl ever again.
49. Likewise, a man may have to sit at a desk or in a vehicle to support his wife & kids. That’s not ever an excuse to just give up & let everything go, but both of you need to embrace that he may never look like a pro-basketball player ever again. Appreciate what each has had
to sacrifice for family.
50. Still - Lift/do what it takes to remain physically strong. Your wife & children will respect you for it & so will you. It’ll make it easier for everyone to accept your role as patriarch.
51. Feminism turns men into spineless cucks & women into screeching harpies. No wonder neither is attracted to the other – which is exactly how & why Satan designed it
52. Before doing anything ask yourself “Would this make my 65-year-old self proud of me?” If it won’t, don’t.
53. Before doing anything ask yourself “Would this make my mother proud of me?” Motherly guilt properly administered & heeded prevents a LOT of stupid.
54. Remember ultimately no one gets away with anything. You reap what you sow
