Thread by @ArmaniTalks

Social Tip:

Something that is routine for you may be a new skill for someone else.

Like journaling, working out or eating clean.

Don't view them from your lens. You may undermine their new journey.

View them from their lens. And give them the encouragement early on

Most of gratitude comes down to viewing life from your lens.

Most of social skills comes down to viewing life from others lens.

Read that again...

When you project your ego onto someone else, you often undermine the journey they are in.

Which causes you to miss out on crucial conversation topics.

That can allow you to speak directly to their identity...

One man's platitude is another man's insight.

We all stumble onto self-improvement in different stages of our life.

This is why you want to be mindful that you're not projecting your experiences onto someone else's.

In order to be socially intelligent, you want to first guard your own ship.

Learn the art of leading yourself.

Pick up some hobbies & some skills that you can work on.

And get hella good at it.

As you get hella good, you realize that it's not easy by any means.

That it requires a lot of consistency, overcoming negative thought patterns, & fine-tuning.

This allows you to build self confidence.

As you are getting good, you will meet people who are a few (or many steps) ahead of you.

These people come off as amazing when they see where you are in your journey.

And provide a few strategic insights to help you along.

These people come off as annoying when they just lecture you.

Or make the entire journey about themself.

And your ego will get more agitated bc they're building themselves up while subconsciously pulling you down (whether they are aware or not).

People decide to change thru shock or shame.

Something massive happened in their life which caused them to want to turn their life around.

Don't undermine that.

Encouragement goes a long way.

Encouragement = Giving someone courage.

-En-Courage

And you give someone courage by evaluating where they are.

Then letting them know they are on the right path.

Your ego may wanna brag how much ahead you are & how what they are doing is 'just the easy part'

But avoid.

Most of social skills come down to taming your ego.

Only then can you view life from their lens.

You get a birds-eye view.

While most people enter a social interaction as a foot soldier.

Perspective, my friend.

Less is way more.

Make the job easier on yourself.

These humans will credit you for the encouragement in the future.

Humans like giving credit where credit is due.

And you speak to their subconscious mind when you make it about them & not yourself.

Give out good energy & you'll get good energy back.

That's how you create a social asset out of thin air.

It'll feel like magic.

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