Thread by @ArmaniTalks

We don't mature thru things going easy for us.

We mature thru discomfort.

Maturation is a workout for the internal world.

Pain is an opportunity to introspect & create.

A mature mind is the ultimate strategic advantage.

People who are mature for their age also felt a lot of pain for their age.

That's the thing we often overlook.

Maturity is not something we are born with.

It's something that's exercised into our existence...👇

But there's levels to this though.

Feeling pain alone won't do it.

Suffering is just a part of life.

Then why are their old people who still act like kids?

It's because they didn't complete the maturation loop...

'Maturation loop?'

Yes.

Feeling pain isn't enough.

But you need to introspect over the pain as well.

Otherwise, you'll never learn.

It's just one L to the next.

Nothing worse than making the same mistake over & over again.

Need to get your act together & recalibrate at one point or another.

The best time to introspect is RIGHT after the pain has occured.

Whether it's getting fired.

Betrayed.

Jumped etc.

'But that's when it hurts the most.'

Exactly. So the picture is still clear.

You're able to not personalize the pain.

Rather, just feel the physical sensations & lead with the WHAT mentality..

Not the WHY.

When you introspect with the WHY mentality, you paint yourself to be a victim.

And you become agitated.

Do the WHY later.

For now, lead with the WHAT.

What happened?

Recall it without bias.

Will be tough, but do your best.

Your teaching your body to learn to sit will ALL the feelings your nervous system throws at you.

So you will feel more battle tested in the future.

The WHAT mentality has you also calling yourself out.

There's a lot of time we feel pain because we were the toxic ones.

And rather than run away

Be the first to admit it.

We are all toxic in someones story.

Whether we want to or not.

Just keep using your conscious mind to add some logic to the feelings while simultaneously feeling it.

Do this alone.

If it's true pain, you probably will have nightmares.

And you may even lose your appetite for a few days.

A lot of 'what if' scenarios will play out in the mind

But patience....itll all make sense later.

Emotion pain is very much like a physical scar.

It bleeds & hurts the most in the beginning.

Then you soldier thru it like a g.

Spray some alcohol on it.. feel the sting.

And have patience itll heal

Emotional pain is the same.

It hurts at first.

But learning to sit with it allows you to realize it's not the end of the world.

Life will move on

And when you stop assigning negative narratives to the feelings, you can adopt the creators mindset

What is confidence?

We always hear the phrase 'be more confident.'

But no one explains what it means.

There are multiple definitions..

Heres mine

Confidence is learning to coexist with all of you AND take purposeful action.

Most people run away from the pain & go to drugs + alcohol.

Or they become paralyzed with fear, wallowing in misery.

The creator seizes this as an opportunity to build something

A lot of:

Entrepreneurs
Bodybuilders
Musicians
Artists

Were born thru intense pain.

If you wanna mature faster, learn to create with all facets of you.

That's confidence

You see people who you consider mature?

They feel the same physical sensations that you do.

But they just don't let the world get a reaction out of them.

When the world around you let's you down... you make the realization that we all make too late.

And that's that the world inside of us was always there for us.

We just took it for granted.

Not anymore.

Pain, mixed with introspection & creation makes you mature faster.

And the faster that you mature, the more internally motivated that you become.

And that's the ultimate strategic advantage.

Remember that.

Embrace the discomfort.

We embrace pain when we are in the gym.

Now it's time we embrace it when we are out there in the real world

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