Healing is not sexy. It is also not linear.
Trauma can lie dormant for a while and make you think it has disappeared and then it rears its head.
Remember the ones who did not stand by you as you healed, the ones who say they want you whole but really just want you defenseless.
Trauma can lie dormant for a while and make you think it has disappeared and then it rears its head.
Remember the ones who did not stand by you as you healed, the ones who say they want you whole but really just want you defenseless.
This includes lovers, friends, and family. There are people who thrive off of your pain. Some of your friendships are built on you being the “weak one”. You don’t know it until you find your strength. And then everything shifts.
Listen. There are people who claim to love you who secretly (and sometimes unconsciously) root for your demise.
Your healing scares them because it reminds them of the soul work they’ve left undone. They’d rather you stay in the depths with them.
Don’t do it.
Your healing scares them because it reminds them of the soul work they’ve left undone. They’d rather you stay in the depths with them.
Don’t do it.
Healing often forces you into isolation. It’s not something you want. It just happens.
Folks don’t want to be close to you when you are in a state of healing because often it’s wicked and ugly and messy.
But it’s necessary so stay there.
You won’t be alone for long.
Folks don’t want to be close to you when you are in a state of healing because often it’s wicked and ugly and messy.
But it’s necessary so stay there.
You won’t be alone for long.
There are days when you feel as if you have lost everyone and everything.
You feel as if you are at the bottom of a well and no one is above ground to hear you. Or save you.
It’s true. No one can save you so you have to learn to save yourself.
You feel as if you are at the bottom of a well and no one is above ground to hear you. Or save you.
It’s true. No one can save you so you have to learn to save yourself.
And digging yourself out of that well will take time, thought, energy, practice. It’s ugly, trying to scale those walls and all. But you can do it. Get sweaty and dirty and climb.
Climb.
Heal.
Climb.
Heal.
Don’t concern yourself with who is waiting, or not, on the other side of that healing.
YOU are there. The expansive, brilliant, magical soul that is you is there.
You don’t need external validation for your healing. It may never come so you have to learn to love on yourself.
YOU are there. The expansive, brilliant, magical soul that is you is there.
You don’t need external validation for your healing. It may never come so you have to learn to love on yourself.
Your people, the real ones, they will find you. They will come. You may already know them but you can’t see them because your eyes and hands are blinded by the work.
It’s okay. They won’t leave.
Your true folks won’t run away. Don’t be afraid.
Trust yourself.
It’s okay. They won’t leave.
Your true folks won’t run away. Don’t be afraid.
Trust yourself.
Healing is always worth it. It is painful at times but to look back and see how far you’ve come? That is a beauty that will blind you in dazzling ways. Keep at it. You are all you got so save yourself.
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