Sisters, you can help increase your man's erection, assist with his reproductive health, and help him achieve a mind-blowing orgasm with just a 3 finger massage? I'll share with you how external prostate massage can do just that.
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland internally situated between the bladder and the penis. It sits in front of the rectum. The urethra runs through the center of the prostate, from the bladder to the penis, letting urine flow out of the body.
The prostate secretes a fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. Milking the prostate is the process of manually massaging the prostate gland in order to allow all of the prostatic fluid to properly drain from the prostate.
Why is this important?
Why is this important?
Many of our brothers (especially Black men and other men of color) experience prostate dysfunctions due to lack of early detection and screening. Prevention is important. One of the ways to optimize prostate health is through the use of massage.
For example, men who experience a weakening of urine flow might be suffering from an enlarged prostate (the urethra runs through the center of the prostate carrying urine from the bladder).
Massaging, or 'milking, the prostate can allow for blockages to be cleared and urine flow may improve. Additionally, prostate massage was a key treatment for erectile dysfunction before the advent of modern pharmaceuticals and is still an important technique.
Men may also experience fluid blockages periodically that may cause ejaculation to be painful. Milking the prostate helps to clear the blockage and return ejaculation to a pleasurable state.
And speaking of pleasure, have you ever heard of the P-spot orgasm?
And speaking of pleasure, have you ever heard of the P-spot orgasm?
It's what you get when you massage the prostate for a period of time. Some men say they have experienced a full-body orgasm when their prostate is massaged with light pressure & is accompanied by other sexual touch and physical stimulation, including oral sex.
The Skene's gland in a woman is the homolog to the prostate and we know that when that gland is massaged, a woman can ejaculate (squirt!). So essentially, milking the prostate is helping a man to increase HIS ejaculation as well.
It's fairly easy to do:
1. Get consent. Do not attempt to touch your man on his perineum without first letting him know what you are planning to do. Consent is important. Consent is sexy. Ask FIRST.
1. Get consent. Do not attempt to touch your man on his perineum without first letting him know what you are planning to do. Consent is important. Consent is sexy. Ask FIRST.
2. Make sure that your partner is relaxed. A man who is nervous or uneasy will not reap the full benefit of the milking. Healing first begins in the mind, as does pleasure. Let him relax and get comfortable before you begin.
3. Using the first three fingers of the hand (index, middle, ring) gently massage the perineum (see diagram) in a clockwise motion. Ask your partner to give you cues to know if you are hitting the right spot. Change direction as needed. Be careful not to use too much pressure.
4. If your partner has an erection while you are milking the prostate, feel free to engage in other forms of sex play. Other forms of foreplay during a prostate massage can significantly increase the pleasure factor and assists with the 'milking' of prostatic fluid.
5. If you massage for an extended period of time, consider using a water-based lubricant on your fingertips. If you want to up the kink factor, use some of your own arousal fluids to lubricate your fingers while performing the massage.
6. Repeat regularly as needed (or requested). Prostate massage can be done as a stand-alone act. Remember, this is not just for pleasure, it's for his health also.
Remember to encourage your husband to see a doctor if he is experiencing symptoms of prostate irregularity (difficulty urinating, change in urine flow, blood in urine or semen, unexplained cramping in the pelvic region, etc.)
I am offering this information as a certified sexual and reproductive health educator. I am also offering this as the student of a beloved teacher who died from prostate cancer. Men, please get a prostate screening. In the meantime, sisters, try milking.
Okay, I'm done.
Okay, I'm done.
wait, i forgot to add the diagram. that line that you see is called the raphe. it is a ridge of skin, almost like a seam. use that as your guidepost when you are performing the prostate massage. that area is where you will concentrate during the three-finger massage. 
