@raidevon 1. Looking back at your words and actions as foolish is good and healthy. Being convinced that anything you WILL say or do is foolish is not good, as you become paralyzed. Speak and take action despite that you might think it foolish after.
@raidevon 2. Have a very low tolerance for dishonesty. For yourself and others. This is a master variable of life. And it’s under appreciated. (But no need to be psycho about it. Harmless embellishment of a story for entertainment only is just good talking)
@raidevon 3. Learn to enjoy tinkering with who you are. Test yourself with experiments. Realize any change has to be approached with a long term strategy. There is no wise statement or pill that is going to turn you into who you think you could be.
@raidevon 4. Meditation. Probably highest ROI here. Should put it as #1. What you say and do is rooted in thought. Change your relationship to thought and all else begins to change. Dm for more info. Tinkered thinking has a mini-series for meditation in the works.
@raidevon 5. Improvement requires practice. Keep speaking and keep doing, and give up any idea of getting MUCH better quickly. Just seek to be a tiny bit more articulate and a little more effective.
@raidevon 6. Reflect but don’t ruminate. It’s easy to figure out how something could have been better said or done. Realize it, see if there is a larger theme that can be addressed and then just move on.
@raidevon 7. Write. Writing clarifies you to yourself. Forget what school taught you, just write in order to make sense of things. Long/short, doesn’t matter, just what interests/confuses you or provokes curiosity. Your writing shows you concretely how you are making sense of the world.
@raidevon 8. Don’t stop reading. Never shy from spending money on a book, and don’t feel like you have to read them all 100% and in order. Jump around, let curiosity be whimsical. This way curiosity will be faster at finding something that it wants to go deep on. Collect quotes/passages.
@raidevon 9. Memorize a few favorite quotes. This is the quickest/most practical hack. Having a couple dozen quotes on the tip of your tongue creates magic in conversation. Just do it, you’ll be surprised at how you feel in response to people’s reaction.
@raidevon 10. Find friends that you not only respect, but admire. People whose speech & actions naturally challenge your own to be better. Friendships that you want to live up to. Large social circles are over rated. It’s ok to drift away from people. One true friend is worth everything.
@raidevon 11. Get rid of bad habits. This goes back to the honesty bit. If you think it might not be great for you and it’s occurring on a regular basis, chances are good life would be better without it. Enough gooroos on here that go on about diet/exercise/Sleep is important.. etc
@raidevon 12. Aim high but don’t forget your feet are still attached to you. The biggest step any of us can take is still small. It’s a matter of continuing to climb those steps when others stop and making sure you’re grinding away on the right staircase.
@raidevon 13. Solitude is a superpower. Cultivate it. Learn to see what real value there is in it. This can be leveraged later towards work that you decide upon. Also becomes a filter for who to have around and what you do. Like that quote: “only speak if it is an improvement upon silence”
@raidevon 14. Humour is the other superpower. Meditation helps this. If you can laugh at your own foolishness, you become invincible, from your own negative thoughts & from others. If god & the devil exist than the world is surely where they share the laugh. Nothing defeats genuine humour
@raidevon 15. Remember that change is a sly constant. You are changing even when you feel stuck and sometimes it’ll suddenly feel as if so much has changed and you didn’t notice. Befriend that coy agent. Appreciate how slow it can seem and it might bring you to great heights.
@raidevon 16. All of these are reflections of emotional regulation. Being able to toggle your emotions determines your reaction to a situation. Meditation is the most powerful lever of this group that can be used to incredible effect:
If you can navigate the moment,
You can go anywhere.
If you can navigate the moment,
You can go anywhere.
