There were THREE reasons why a man would have isithembu and I'll deal with each
•If the wife couldn't bare children/ was terminally Ill
•If his brother had passed away
•Marry what they call "umjendevu" a woman who has never been married
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She would take it upon herself to inform her in laws and family; request that the husband take the second wife to assist with the "running" of their home
She would even suggest this to the husband. Go as far as choosing the wife
Not what we see on Mseleku's cheaters show where side chicks are imposed on wives.
Uma ubhuti wendoda eshona; the brother would engage families ukuthi the widow ahlale eduze nabo to take care of her & children
The wife would be consulted; then it was commonly practiced so kwakungabi yinkinga. He would even build a house for her
In the olden days; kwakungafuneki umuntu wesifazane ogugela kubo; so imindeni yayikhulumisana ukuthi indoda efuna isithembu ikhulumisane nomndeni. Wayehanjiswa owesifazabe abakubo ayogana.
You can't just impose a person on someone and expect all to be normal. Umuntu unemizwa and that led to people being poisoned and caused commotions because of polygamy not done properly
Don't introduce a culture yobufebe and call it polygamy. A man respects his first wife so much that if she doesn't want a second wife; he doesn't do it.
Not the rubbish Musa Mseleku is showing you. That's cheating and lust
Polygamy needs money; respect; responsibility, fairness and knowing why you're in a polygamy marriage not it being imposed.