No one gave Bill Clinton a pass on Paula Jones.
Pretending he's the only one is what galls most thinking women.
Stop putting the onus on women.
And EVERYONE knows a man who sexually assaults women.
This is why we don't report what happens to us.
Because we are the ones who are called liars and our careers are sent into a tailspin.
A friend of mine who my mother's age recently told me the husband of a close friend tried to assault her at a party. Cornered her in a bedroom.
She's in her late 70s. She was able to get away from him, but ffs men, wth?
"I was drunk, so..." is often the excuse these men give, as #KevinSpacey has.
Several THOUSAND RTd.
But dozens said, "more than once, but I can only RT once."
My 1st time.
I was 10.Tall for my age so maybe looked 12.
I can recall it--how vivid it was--to this day.
Women's heads are full of these unwanted images.
But I will speak to men: WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MAKE WOMEN'S LIVES SAFER FROM YOUR GENDER CLASS?
Why are you continuing the fiction that you don't know a rapist or a dozen rapists?
Only women speaking.
Where are the men to stand up and say "Yeah, I did force my high school/college/current girl friend to suck my d*ck when she didn't want to."
Because that's happening every day.
Sadly, I don't consider any of those things a big deal.
That last shattered me.
I'd been covering stories like this for years.
But now I was the story:
I shall never be healed from the rape itself.
I still live in that house.
For months I could still see the outline of my body in the ivy of my neighbor's yard like the chalk outline in a crime show.
I told him I would go with him and I would help him get a lawyer, both of which things I did.
But it's most important we forgive ourselves and not blame ourselves and not think we are responsible for what was done to us or for not reporting or for any of it.
WE NEVER ASKED TO BE VICTIMS.