if you truly want to be an ally to those struggling with mental health concerns, you should talk too.
and notice the ways in which you talk about mental illness.
is it good to reach out to someone if you need help? YES absolutely.
here are some things i'd like to share with folks who want to be allies:
this is a big one.
maybe the evil person really does have mental health issues. whatever. when that's the first thing you say about evil...we notice.
maybe knock it off.
i'm not perfect about this, it's been deeply engrained by societal teachings. but that's what you need to #BellLetsTalk about
-don't just say you'll be there for people. if you can't handle the emotional labor (and it is labor) of hearing rough shit, you have every right to say so! (cont'd) #BellLetsTalk
flip side of that, folks with mental health issues, it ain't your job to carry everyone else's burdens. it is completely okay to say, "hey, i don't have the energy to handle this right now. i'm sorry. here's a resource for you:"
it's "what can i do to help? or would you prefer space?"
but in those moments i've had friends offer to hang, bring me snacks, share their favorite book with me.
it means the world. #BellLetsTalk
but please, let's stop gawking at mental illness and start treating it for what it is. illness. like any other illness.
not that we're great about illness as a society, but... #BellLetsTalk