I was reading this article about high performance depression & it made me think. The thing with being perceived to be strong means that no one ever asks whether you are OK or fine,because you are always on overdrive you are seen to be eating life with a big spoon #Thread
People who want people to care about them tend to be over-carers, those who want to be protected tend to be over-protectors,those who want to be given tend to be over-givers....strong people tend to give what they wish to receive....
Strong people tend to be fragile inside, they have learnt to smile even when their world is crumbling, they have learnt to laugh when their heart is crying, they have learnt to support others and hide their pain
So they tend to want to control all factors in their life to keep a semblance of balance. these are people who are outgoing in business, work extra hard & always succeed because that is what keeps them going......until something happens that they cant control....
It takes something outside of their control to cause their insides to shutter, a betrayal, disrespect,a death, financial issues, marital issues....how? they bury it and smile & when they try & talk about it many times through tears....the response is be strong.
When we tell people 'be strong' what exactly does that mean? wouldn't it be better to allow them to cry? scream? lash out and tell them 'I have your back'... instead of making them feel guilty for the pain they have....what does be strong mean surely?it means deal with it quietly
So these strong people deal with it quietly in the spirit of being strong, they hide,drink,smoke,sleep for days but in public...laugh and smile,until one day they can't deal with it anymore ... these high functioning people ,type a personalities,beacon of hope for others give up
Its amazing, the more people & gadgets we have around us,the lonelier we are..we sit in houses where we don't talk because we are all glued on small screens, we don't talk any more but we are a family...sometimes close the gadgets & talk,it might just save someones life
When someone calls & you say you are going to be there, make time & be there, don't come talking about how you have a busy schedule, don't make them feel guilty for asking for your time, put down your phone & talk, listen..give a hug maybe..people are hurting
Happy Tuesday everyone.... Spread the love, spread the cheer, spread the hugs.... Really care about your friends, call & ask them how they are, don't ask them to be strong put down your phone & talk.. And for Gods sake have their back....it matters
