You know what’s really sad about these high profile black men mocking T. Crews? Terry publicly told his story, saying he knew exactly why so many women accusing Weinstein stayed silent. His entire point was, if it could happen to him, a large, black man who ppl knew...
...who had some power & friends in high places, if sexual assault could happen to him, it could happen to anyone. And with his story, he did things “the right way”. He told his high powered friends & let his agency know. They said they’d handle it. Not only did they do nothing...
...they stopped taking his calls. This happened BEFORE Me Too. So he had to SIT with this. Knowing that this guy faced zero consequences. So when MeToo happened he knew EXACTLY why so many women stayed silent. They inspired him to tell his story. Instead of seeing the point...
...(the system is set up to protect abusers) folks wanna put the onus on him for “letting” his assault happen. Folks aren’t even shocked that the assault happened. They know & are ok with abusers being out there. They’re ok w/ T’s whole agency ghosting on him. The prob they...
...have is that Terry didn’t react the right way. So, what about this is encouraging other male victims to come forward? Female victims have a hard enough time, but what is this saying to male victims? Folks always wanna deflect convos women have about sexual assault with...
...it happens to men too. But look how ya’ll treat male victims. Look how folks shame them. This man is an advocate, not only for Me Too, but for male survivors. Particularly, black male survivors. He is centering his gender AND race in these convos. This is about ya’ll. Your...
...health & well being. This is about ya’ll, that yes, this can happen to YOU. But nah, shame him. This is really a shame. It could be a really important moment for you guys. It’s not being taken seriously.
Terry has said, repeatedly, that him being a big, black man kept him from being violently...even tho that was his first reaction. Why? Terry & his wife were probably in an all white space. He’s there, mingling with folks who might want to hire/work with him. He’s said...
...if he would’ve gotten violent, his abuser could’ve said Terry attacked him. Terry is there doing his job. Trying to feed his family & because he’s a big black dude, in an all white space, he KNEW folks wouln’t believe him & would paint him as a violent black man. How many...
...times have ya’ll been disrespected at work, and want to break some shit, but you know you can’t? Maybe you do break shit. But do we really not understand his point? He didn’t expect to be assaulted & he damn sure didn’t expect his agency & friends to ghost on him like that.
That had everything to do with him being a black man. Ya’ll have to know that. What makes this case diff than a reg job is, say you break some shit or put hands on someone. If they don’t press charges, you can get another job. But Hollywood is sooooooooooooo small. You think ...
...Terry wanted ANOTHER reason for people to not hire him? Actresses have come out & said they’ve been blackballed for speaking out against Weinstein/Cosby & folks like them. You think they wouldn’t do that to Terry? Hell, when he did tell his agency, they stopped returning...
...his calls. I believe he’s suing them now. Luckily he’s still working but...you can see how this could’ve turned out very differently. He damn sure wouldn’t be speaking in front of Congress telling his story.
And tbc, folks don’t know how they’d react to trauma till it happens. The reaction is not what’s important. The trauma is. That’s what needs to stop. That’s what needs to be shamed.
Lots of women and girls in prison for killing their abusers.
