This time my Slapper was 3. She was my patient. I was trying to examine her 'area'.
I looked up in shock, then I met her eyes. I shivered. One act of abuse had scarred yet another.😢
In walked She, mum and aunt.
Her Shiny black skin and full natural hair caught my eye.
She was 3.
Didn't look sick at all.
"Hey there happy Girl,Welcome, What brings you to the clinic today?", I started with a smile. One that soon turned sour👇
All that Glucose would come in handy.
"Come again please", I said
"E rapeuru ya yesterday" (She was raped yesterday)
I looked at the Barbie.
"Who did that Ma'am?"
"My neighbour's son"
She went on to narrate.
She was in the Kitchen, Had no idea neighbour had lured baby out. She innocently went cos he is Bro X
Next thing she knew baby ran in to narrate the experience in her own words. Neighbours are alerted, boy is queried, owns up, etc.
"Where is he?
So I channelled the question to her.
"He is at home. He is my son. And I have punished him. He won't try it again. He is just 15, He doesn't know what he is doing"
Next thing she said made me excuse her from my clinic
It has not gotten to Police case. These are children"
15 years. SS2. Doesn't know anything abi.
Is rape justifiable?
"Nma, I am sorry, I just want to check what Bro xxx did to you. Oya show me where he put it."
Her eyes were wide with fear. As she pulled her singlet to cover her 'area'.
"Don't touch me. Mummy tell her not to touch me", she cried.
Mum had tears.
Next she grabbed the galipot containing swabs I was using to clean her and threatened to smash my head if I continued. She wouldn't even let any male Doc near her
"He lift his knicker. He lick my thing. Then he goan put his... thing (whispered), in my... thing (whispered). Then I told my mummy"
I held back tears. Her hymen was missing, she was bruised, and all the culprit's mum's concern was infection.
Cautioned and counselled her on the dangers of 'Unkuus and Antys', cos even male children get abused.
I also talked with Nma.
"Your son needs to come so we can question him and know the extent of what he did. I won't be quick to throw blames at you.
But you should never make excuses for your son's wrong, being a minor doesn't make his act less punishable by law"🤷
And what baffles me is how readily parents are ready to try to patch the matter.
In Nma's eyes, I saw a bruised woman. And I fear for her.
She will need Therapy, love and Prayers.
Let them know their body parts. Let them know that no one is permitted to touch them there regardless of ties, blood or not.
Train and discipline your children, Abusers of today were once children of yesterday.
Abuse cases are under reported.
If you are old enough to hold up an erection and guide into a hole, you are old enough to face the law, maybe in varying degrees.
Rape is beyond the physical