The woman often time believes that she cant be emotionally investing in something without a tag
You guys start to date.
You guys laugh
Slate your exes
And wonder where he or she had been all your life. At this point no one is keeping up appearances anymore. You are getting relaxed then boom the first major fight happens.
Most relationships dont make it past this first fight.
And it marks the begining of many more
The only physical connection you have is when yall have sex.
You make up
You make up
Then it becomes a cycle
And the word toxic gets thrown around
He is pissing u off
She is pissing u off
You take a break
You start showing how u are living ur best lives without them
But u miss him or her.
Someone reaches out
And the fights starts again
How his friends say he is the best thing ever
But yall dont see it.
You can barely stand each other. But you cant leave cos of the time it seems you both have invested in the relationship.
You now slowly start to resent them.
You have started speaking to other people while still dating
But living and dating them is hell.
Someone finally initiates the breakup..
And we see the subs on social media. They eventually move on and start that cycle again with someone
Is not building a friendship before the relationship
Id say be friends with that person for at least one year.
If not yall will struggle..
So stop thinking u have a spiritual problem its u not doing things properly
Because overtime u have taken ur time to know everything abt ur friend and even when yall fight
You find a way to sort it out
Or how his friends dont understand why ure always fighting with their friend
Its cos you havent tapped into that side of them their friends know and understand.
They will say
Marry your best friend.
All the money in the world would never take the place of friendship in any relationship
My exes would probably say i am a douchebag
But looking back i have realised that we didnt work cos we were 2 strangers in a relationship
It might be what holds yall together when everything else fails.