Thread by @Osi_Suave

When i see all the rage on twitter about marriage and relationships. It puts me off the whole thing.

Then it suddenly hit me that alot of people are going into these things with pre- conceived mindsets and expectations

As a guy the more successful you are legally or illegally the higher you are on the dating rung.

The problem with this is that money do not guarantee loyalty or longevity in any marriage or relationship.

Saying you want to be with someone has to be one of the purest things ever

But we have found a way to complicate it.

These days
Potential
Intention
Drive

Do not mean anything.

The appearance and availability of wealth plays a huge role

I tell my friends i miss the days i was broke. ( Still hustling o)

Cos that was when i gave everything to the women i loved.

Every kobo i spent came from a place of sacrifice

To pay for cabs or anything inhad ro deprive myself.

Then i had nothing to impress anyone with

Was Still living at home
Zero car
Zero bar

Great spoken English wont get u anywhere so it was more like this na all i get

Take or leave it

The more i progressed the harder it became. Because things no longer came from a place of sacrifice it came from a place of " i need to impress"

So when we give all sorts of meanings to the essence of a relationship

We end up creating problems that shouldnt be there in d first place

A person that doesnt say wash dishes

Ure getting angry because u have the notion that they are supposed to do x y z

And when they dont do it we become confused and angry cos our mental picture if what a partner should be is now being eroded by the reality we are now seeing

Once you start dating go into it with an open mind to learn about who ure with

Know their character
Understand their temperament

So you dont project what you think he or she should be on them

Then when they dont meet up you start to think they are bad for u

The ultimate trait in anyone ure dating is kindness

A kind person will move mountains for you.

Also understand that love isnt the show of how much they can spend or the words they utter

It is the quality of the sacrifices they make for you.

These days alot of people dont even know who they are

We are having hybrids who are building personalities off what they consume on social media

Based on what other people project to them

This is a problem and it would be like dating 2 people in a relationship

Also understand that knowing someone takes time.

Understanding them takes even longer.

Patience and forgiveness are the foundation of any relationship

A person who cannot forgive cannot love

Love is the most lethal drug available, although technically free, Indulging is very high risk-high reward gamble. It propels you to a euphoric peak and then pushes you from the top of the mountain when it's over. But the fall doesn't kill you. You survive and endure the pain

Epiphanies about the laws of attraction arise during your recovery

The same things that lure you to someone can also repel you

Love is also one emotion that is very clear

It comes with no

But's
What ifs

And the likes

If what defines ur love is based on something then itsnt love

As we all go into a new year lets give this love thing another try

That Benz today will become old skool in another 5 years

That banging body today will give way to folds and wrinkles in the future

Look for something that can withstand the true test of time.

Have a great 2019

Know that people are inherently flawed.

Stop expecting perfection from flawed people