Just because a man's penis is erect doesn't mean that he is automatically 'ready' to have sex. Our village is definitely (and always will be!) woman-centered, but let's talk about men for a minute, shall we? #TVAMovement #ForeplayEquality
A vast majority of men wake up with nocturnal penile tumescence ('morning wood') and it is not for reasons you might think. Much of it has no connection to external sexual stimuli. Don't believe me? Read this: cle.clinic/2Sw53si
So don't take the fact that he woke up with the flag on his soul pole waving to mean that he's ready for action. Just like you need foreplay, men do too. Too often we think an erection is all that's needed.
Men need foreplay too. It could be deep kissing, oral sex, fondling. Some men even like nipple play (yes, his nips are pleasure centers, too!) #ForeplayEquality is fun because it's another way of showing your man you enjoy his body, not just his penis.
It's easy for men to feel that they are reduced to just a penis or a mouth. We can't focus on our own pleasure so much that we forget our male partner who is as in need as we are. And sex, for some men, is an area where they express what they don't feel comfortable saying aloud.
Maybe you don't know what he likes. In that case, experimentation is your friend. Explore his body. Make it a priority. The care and feeding of your man's body is an experiment definitely worth undertaking. #ForeplayEquality
Does he like when you go down on him? Learn some new techniques. Vary your depth. Practice limiting the gag reflex. Incorporate flavored lubes, grapefruit, or fruit roll-ups (you ain't know?) Just take care not to get any sugary substance into the urethra.
Did you know that one of the most sensitive places on a man is the perineum? It's a smooth area of skin located between the genitals and the anus. Try massaging his magical midsection with your middle finger while you have him in your mouth. #ForeplayEquality
If he enjoys massage, turn it up a notch by using your body to give him a full-body rubdown. Add some kink by tying his hands together behind his head so that he can't touch you while you're getting your rub on. #ForeplayEquality
Kissing is often overlooked as a route to arousal. Don't just stop at the lips. Kiss his neck, his forehead, his nose, his shoulder. Grab the back of his neck or head and pull him closer to you as you kiss. It's a simple yet endearing way to set the mood. #ForeplayEquality
Does your man love food? Make him a favorite meal (or order out) and feed him. Better yet, eat from the same dish. Let's revisit a beautiful sunnah (tradition) of our beloved Prophet (saws) and his wife Aisha (RA).
Our mother Aisha (RA) would drink from a cup. Our beloved Rasulallah (saws) would take the same cup, find the place from which his wife drank, and place his lips there as well. He would do the same with meat that she had taken a bite of. Rasulallah (saws) was a romantic.
We need loook no further than the sunnah for examples of #ForeplayEquality. Our Prophet (saws) pleased his wives and they also rushed to please him. The reciprocal nature of marital passion is right there in our deen.
If you have pledged to be with your husband forever, if he is your one, doesn't it make sense to try to have the most pleasurable sex possible? Get your O, sis...but it's okay give him some too. #ForeplayEquality
