Sickening to see via Instagram that my ex was trying to punt videos of he and I having sex - taken without my consent - to other women while we were together.
I believe he's done it to other women he's been with subsequently too.
I think the police have been contacted by someone else affected. The person offered the video of me was offered it in 2014, so it was a while ago. He's done it more recently to other people.
I've held my tongue for a long time about the behaviour of this ex because I was scared, and because I didn't want any of his friends to know what he was like. Now you know.
Someone else has messaged to say they may have been sent a video but no longer have it. I think for the police to take this seriously I'd require evidence. So if you or anyone you know has anything, please DM me.
A couple of women have told me that he told them we were in an open relationship. We weren't. Please know that this has come as a complete shock and that I wasn't complicit.
If you're in a relationship with an extremely controlling, possessive, jealous and angry person, their behaviour is not your fault. You need to safely get out. When my head is clearer I'll share advice on how to do so, but you can always DM me in the meantime.
People like this will always try to make you feel as though you're to blame for the way they treat you. They'll make you question your own sanity. They'll gaslight and guilt trip until you feel trapped. But you're not.
That's a few others telling me he gave them the open relationship patter and told them that I was "crazy" and "possessive". Me! Unreal. I'm public now btw.
Someone else has been in touch to say he showed them videos of me, but that it was via screenshare on Google Hangouts. Which I don't think will be traceable. I can't describe how angry I am right now with this complete scumbag.
I'd like to add that this has come as a shock to his friends as well. None of them knew about any of this. He presents publicly as likeable and charming. Some people even found him funny. Funny enough to give him a stand-up show, which is now cancelled. As is he.
This thread is about Philip Larkin (@philiplarkin). I know he has a lot of high-profile followers on here and hope that they will see this and unfollow.
