I don’t need saving...but thanks anyway.
I choose sex work.
Because I choose the job best suited to my needs.
That’s my right as a human being. To choose my job, right?
I am a sex worker by choice.
And I know you’re going to hate to hear this.
But so are MOST workers
And if you give me a moment I’m going to explain why you’re wrong about us.
Yes, even if you see workers or support workers.
You still have internal stigma so this feed is for you too.
Ladies and Gentlemen....
meet The Victim!
Broken, dejected, isolated victim.
“Bad men use me and degrade me for their own selfish pleasure”
Does he look like a victim to you?
So yeah, great.
My vagina makes me a victim while Mr Hotness over here has got it wired for sound.
I mean women actually pay him for sex! How awesome is that right?
We are victims. We are broken. We are used.
What a crock of shit!
“I’d love to do your job.”
I’d be retired now, living on St Bart’s with David Beckham bringing me my Gin Slings while dressed in a thong.
Yes you have...don’t lie.
And never at any point have you EVER thought of straight male escorts as victims that need saving.
What? The thought never entered your head?
The problem with me being a sex worker and why I would need saving from this terrible and deplorable state...is that
I’m a woman.
Society narrative decrees;
Men don’t need saving from sex work because women are nice and awesome to have sex with, but women DO need saving because men are bad, violent, gross and disgusting to have sex with.
Yet, women who are PAID for sex are victims. If not by trafficking, then by their low self esteem, isolation and loose morals.
Let’s go even further down this rabbit hole. 🐰
I have the privilege of knowing many male escorts and the even greater privilege of calling some of them dear friends.
Another was locked inside a clients house and couldn’t get out
And I’m not even gonna touch on the stories of constantly overstepping boundaries, bad hygiene, hideous breath and general gross behaviour.
(Hey, a sea of sex honey does sound fun though, doesn’t it?)
Despite the fact that are experiences within this work frame are pretty much the same, because an asshole is an asshole regardless of gender.
What pisses society off about female sex workers;
We are women who do not follow the rules.
Women who do sex work...are women who do not follow the rules.
We spit on your rules. The rules of your society. The rules that you set out for women. We don’t just spit on them.
We set them on fire.
We exist on the outside of your society, looking in.
We are on the other side of the looking glass.
And we CHOOSE to be there.
And that man, owns our body. It’s his.
Not ours. HIS
He has sex with us. No one else.
That’s a good girl.
That’s the aim for all womenkind.
And if she charges for it, she worse.
She’s a whore
And do you know where this ridiculous rule came from?
From men who wanted to control women’s choices
And they called called this scam
Remember you don’t mind guys doing it.
It’s really this rules thing.
Women who do sex work break the rules. We don’t follow the rules.
And somehow women not following rules makes a lot of men angry.
Not shaving legs or armpits.
Being a lesbian.
Having an opinion.
Being a politician.
Not giving a fuck what men think of us.
We fuck lots of men for money.
And people are furious about that.
Because we probably break more rules than they do
Than they ever could, than they ever will.
More than they could ever dream of.
You don’t admit that’s where the anger originated. Where the judgement comes in.
No you fall back on your indoctrination that women who have sex with lots of different men are dirty and sinful.
You know why?
Because you are the same ones who say you could never “allow” your girlfriend or wife to do sex work and you can’t understand how our boyfriends and husbands do.
And you think this thought is okay? That this control is okay?
Or would you be fine with me having sex with 6 different men every week?
Now let’s turn this around, what if we were dating and YOU were the sex worker having sex with 6 different fun and sexy women every week...and they were paying you for it?
Paying you for it. Like really good money. But it’s just work. But it’s just a job. A fun job.
Even bigger question.
Would that make you worthless and dirty? Would that make you less of a man. Would it make you less worthy of my love and commitment? Would I be allowed to shame and ridicule you for it?
Not only are women not allowed to own their own bodies, or make decisions based on what they can and can’t do with their bodies. But women are not allowed the economic freedom that comes with this. Here’s why.
I’ll give you a hint. It’s not to protect us.
Money. Of course it’s about money. What isn’t?
Think about the hundreds of thousands of sex workers in the US. That’s a lot of cash. Untaxable cash
And the government can’t get its cut. And that’s bad. So sex work is bad for governments.
And how can they avoid you, Clueless Joe from working that out?
By stigmatising sex work and encouraging the press to paint us as sub human.
And the muggles just lap it up.
You believe it.
And surely all women want to only belong to one man right?
I want to stay out here with the brave. The outliers, the cowboys.
I choose to think for myself.
But do me this one favour.
Stop buying the victim rhetoric, because not only is it not true. Not only does it insult your intelligence.
It’s a scam.
And yes some women believe this crap too. It’s called brainwashing.
Step away from the Kool Aid guys.
I already know all this. And I’m a sex worker.
When all is said and done. When I look at the lies society expects you to swallow, and the ignorance you blindly swim in.
From where I’m standing, it’s not me that needs saving...