Instead — 👏🏼 ACTIONABLE ADVICE AHEAD 👏🏼 (thread)
And dinner— it’s not /just/ bc of this thread! 🤣
The fear many women have of you as a group is real and it is learned. Last week, I was trying to explain this to someone.
When he was 15 or so, a man tried to pick him up at a movie theater. It terrified him, & he was scared of unfamiliar men for a while too, BUT
Here’s the thing: after being socialized he learned not to fear men.
For many women, we learn TO be scared.
It’s a complicated question, but many— MANY— say Yes.
I was IN assault therapy and being assaulted AT THE SAME TIME
Before that, I observed that I was feeling anxious via my ❤️beat & inability to breathe
“Absolutely,” said Matt.
I took some deep breaths & tried to figure out why my body was going into Panic Mode.
I realized it was bc the LAST time I was working for a man’s startup, he assaulted me.
But I was FREAKING OUT.
So he and his lawyers wrote one up. It’s the only contract in 5 years of being a “Professional” that isn’t ‘at will.’ We are contractually bound to figure out any issues that may come up— like normal decent humans— instead of him just firing me.
👏🏼👏🏼 BUT THE FACTS DON’T MATTER HERE👏🏼👏🏼
I was freaking out because of a past experience (in reality MANY experiences), bc I’ve learned Men Abuse Power.
You can make things different. don’t *say* Not All Men, BE Not All Men.
Let’s make 2019 better, for everyone ❤️