Thread by @oneiricblue

One big part of "common" asian culture is never hearing your parents apologise to you no matter how wrong they were in anything they've imposed on you.
It's that stubborn belief that they'll always be better and know more than you rather than respecting your individual values.

While their intentions do normally mean well, they way they execute and enforce these ideas can sometimes be highly toxic.
My family is pretty transparent in our thoughts by comparative means but there's still so many flaws and it just hurts so much to continue living this way.

I'm sure as parents, they're aware (or eventually will be) of the actions and consequences but even these things are looked over or buried with time, the truth is that they will never openly admit the harm they've done to you or others.

By the end of the day, this upbringing will never erase the doubt of self-worth which has been ingrained into you since childhood. It always leaves you wondering whether you could've chosen to be a better "child" to your parents or to disregard all that and become a better person

Going to clarify before this blows up any further. This kind of toxic upbringing obviously isn’t limited to people of “asian ancestry”. It’s just considered part of the social norm within many asian families hence why I worded as part of the culture.

Regardless of your background, it is horrible to see that this kind of treatment is still a common thing within today’s society.
Hopefully we can learn from our parents mistakes and make a change towards this harmful behaviour.

Muting this tweet, because I've been coming across insensitive comments criticising race exclusion or this being "parents being parents".
Not sure what kind of world you guys live in if you consider all parents "beating" you into mental submission and esteem issues as normal

People also clearly aren't following through with the whole thread and jumping to conclusions. I'm not really in the state to deal with any of this given the circumstances which made me tweet this to begin with.
To everyone else experiencing a bad parent dynamic, stay strong!