Thread by @ApexOliver

Thread on Friendships.

Friendship is a topic that is discussed a lot since most men on the journey of self-improvement are lonely.

What is friendship and where do you find new friends?

All of that will be discussed here.

First - The definition.
I'm sure the Oxford Dictionary has a detailed definition, but I'll just summarize it to a formula:

Friendship = Proximity + Common Goal/Mission/Objective (+ Trust)

Any type of connection that doesn't involve both factors, isn't considered friendship.

Once any of the factors is removed, your friendship is degrading until your once-friend is now an acquaintance.

Think about your high school friends.

How many of them are you still in touch with? If you're lucky, maybe 1-2.

There's a saying here "Your real friends are those you make in the army"/

In my army days, I would take a bullet for any of my team members, and they'd take one for me. Went to war together. Brothers in arms.

After military days? All that is left is an inactive Whatsapp group.

Why?

Proximity factor is gone, each of us leaves somewhere else.
Shared goal factor is also gone. So what happens?
Friendship degrades, and they make new friends based on those 2 factors that top my friendship.

So with that knowledge in mind, now it's easy to think about friendships.

Where do you find new friends?

First - You need a goal, a purpose.
Doesn't matter what that is, but you need one. Something that could bind you with other men/women.

It could be anything.

Let's say your goal is to become rich in the E-Com biz.

Once you have a goal, it's time you position yourself accordingly.

- Local Entrepreneurship groups.
- Online forums
- College campuses
- Facebook groups

Once you meet people, it's time to tighten the connections.

Obviously just being close to someone and having the same goals, doesn't mean you'll become great friends.
You will become friends though.

There still need to be a "click" between you two.

And another important factor - Trust.

I wasn't sure whether or not I should write Trust, or replace it with Time.
Both are important, time spent together increases trust, and your chances of proving your value and loyalty. So they're interchangeable IMHO.

Could also add "Value".

That's it for now.