Thread by @ArmaniTalks

Social Tip:

Every shy person has a story.

No one is born shy, it is developed.

Don't be too quick to chastise a shy person for being quiet.

Some of them are recovering from trauma.

Aim to understand their silence, rather than pass judments.

'I thought shy people were just disinterested?'

Incorrect.

'You mean they actually WANT to talk?'

Ya.

Humans are innately social creatures.

We crave to interact.

It is in our core.

'So how come they don't just speak up more?'

Due to mental blocks.

'How did the mental blocks get there?'

Depends on the person, my friend.

Let me give you a social dynamics 101 lesson...👇

Humans are born onto this planet crying.

Arms flailing, yelling, tears flowing etc.

They are not born into this planet self-conscious.

They quite frankly don't give a fuck.

Fast forward a few more years.

The child has now learned words, sentences & how to communicate.

Results?

The kid won't shutup!

Asking questions nonstop, making comments about everything, giggling away.

A VERY talkative kid.

'So how does this talkative kid turn so quiet?'

Depends on the person.

Possible reasons for Shyness:

Got bullied
Was told to shut up a lot at an early age
Voice was mocked
Raised by soft-spoken people
Made humiliating comments
Perfectionist
Scared of people

This is just the tip of the iceberg.

There are tons of other reasons out there.

Bottom line is that socially intelligent people don't judge.

Want to know a secret as to why?

'Why?'

Because many were once shy themselves.

'Wait really?? I thought charismatic people were always talkative.'

Not quite.

-Many had spent YEARS being shy.

-Wanting to speak up, but too nervous to do so.

-Felt the crippling emotional pain of not having a voice.

So what did they do?

-They observed.

-They analyzed.

-They learned.

They got a front seat view of the world of social dynamics.

After years having this front seat view, they picked up more social intelligence than the average person.

While others were talking, they were learning.

This knowledge mixed with the DESIRE to speak, allowed them to turn their life around.

The shy person used their social intelligence & desire to speak to begin speaking more!

But this leads to a different breed of charisma.

'Different how?'

It leads to a charismatic person who is COMPASSIONATE.

They felt the pain of being an outcast.

So they never go out of their way to make others feel the same way.

Instead, they help others out of their shell.

Knowing firsthand, that everyone has a story.

A lot of people had charisma growing up.

But a shy person who is able to break out of their shell to reach charisma becomes a weapon in the social dynamics world.

They have the heart of gold, observation skills of a teacher & social fluidity like water.

Shyness can always be conquered.

It's just a matter of when you decide to conquer it.

-You can either be observing on the sidelines your entire life.

-Or you can observe on the sidelines THEN begin playing as well.

The choice is yours.

With that being said, be wary of chastising someone for being quiet.

They may be on the brink of beginning their journey to charisma.

Help your peers, not destruct their efforts.

Social Intelligence 101.

Who knows, maybe in a few years you'll be talking to a social superstar.

And a shy kid NEVER forgets the people who helped them when everyone clowned them.

'Never?'

Never.

Now aim to be more understanding rather than judgmental.

You'll strengthen your social intelligence along the way.

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