Thread by @arkinsquare

It's a Happy Mother's Day to all mothers and women in our lives world over.

#Audacious is appreciative of all the mothers in the world, you make the world better. Thank you

Today, let's quickly look at #SelfDoubt.
Of all types (so to speak) if doubts, the most dangerous is Self-doubt.

Doubt is: to be uncertain about (something): to believe that something may not be true or is unlikely: to have no confidence in (someone or something)
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With the definition of doubt sorted, what is #SelfDoubt?

Simply put, Self-doubt means LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE.

If everything is lacking in oneself, please let it not be self confidence, it can be demoralizing.
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The feeling of being uncertain or unsure about yourself is not good. I don't want to blame ds on anyone, but I believe our childhood is part of the problem. Many are shut down each time they want to speak, many children want to ask questions, they are told to be quiet #SelfDoubt

How many of you have found out that a lot of parents don't like to be in the company of expressive children, they either shut them up or abandon them.
Those that are shut up are the league of adults that are exhibiting the trait now #SelfDoubt

Ability to express oneself is a virtue. Teach your kids to speak out.

I worked with a particular kid sometimes back, the complain was that he ain't brilliant, too dull, and he doesn't talk.
Few times into my session with him, I discovered that he is a brilliant chap #SelfDoubt

He is a brilliant chap that has been shut down a lot of times, he does nothing right in d sight of his parents, so wit fear & trembling, he recoiled into his shell.
What I did was to affirm his excellent part, I told him how beautiful he is & how delighted I am to be his friend

We read together, I ask for his opinion about tasks we want to undertake and we do it the way he suggests. He liked it.
Whenever we failed in such task, we deliberate on why we failed and I then suggest a way to do it.
I built his confidence
#SelfDoubt

I then told his parents what I did and what they mustn't do anymore. I'm positive the boy is doing well now.
#SelfDoubt
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A lot of grown ups are walking around with crushed ego, some have had themselves shut down on, many have lost validation from places they expected to get them, hence, they walk around never believing in themselves anymore.
#SelfDoubt

Some even go as far as saying, "my dad said I can never amount to anything" and with that, they stopped trying to be.
#SelfDoubt is a weakness and we must all treat it from a weakness perspective.
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To be truthful to you, treating #SelfDoubt is a big task, it will require you to be willing and intentional especially for an adult.
Read wide. Give informed opinion. Speak. Speak. Speak.
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#SelfDoubt is never going to make you start anything, you won't want to venture even when you have requisite knowledge.
Ever wonder when you attend a conference or seminar you are ready to do something great bcoz you've seen that you can, but after, you never start?

The shot of adrenaline at the conference is dissipated totally after the conference when you think over it again & your fears creeps in again... #SelfDoubt.
Check out the lots of people who have really fantastic ideas on paper, they didn't start bcos no confidence in themselves

To overcome #SelfDoubt, you have to know you self-worth and highlight them more.
1. Refuse to be shut down.
2. Speak and don't be coerced into not talking.
3. Be expressive
4. Demand respect
5. Socialize more
6. Be neat & tidy always
7. Have a commanding demeanor

Above all, you have to be intentional to build your self confidence.

#SelfDoubt no dey pay ooo.

#Audacious

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