Thread by @ThabitiAnyabwil

I've been thinking this for a long time. I've tried earnestly to shake the thought. But it keeps coming to the fore as I watch some of the Twitter spats nowadays.

But there's something decidedly UNmanly about men in leadership attacking women in the name of "complementarianism"

The vitriol coming from some quarters simply seems disproportionate and angry. Some men write as if they're in street fights with men. But, actually, some of them never take those tones with men or male peers.

It seems to me that real men should be tender with women especially when we disagree--not because women are "weak" but because *strength* and *meakness* and *gentleness* are beautiful in manhood. In all the defenses I'm not seeing much of a defense of this aspect of manhood.

I've more to say, but I'll stop there. It would be wonderful to see men engage our sisters in a way that we say complementarity requires. The failure to do so really does reveal that some people may be mistaking complementarity with gendered power. We can do better.

To be clear I'm not even talking @ male comp'ss engaging female *egalitarians.* I'm seeing the vitriol and animus aimed at women who themselves are complementarians but want some room to breathe and serve. It wouldn't be just if it was aimed at egals, but even less intra-comp's.