Thread by @hnshah

Everything changes once you realize that you are the only person in your own way.

Nobody else is getting in the way of what you want.

Your own thoughts, habits and behaviors are the only things standing in the way.

Change yourself and you’ll change what you get.

Changing yourself is hard.

Learning how to change yourself will lead you to getting what you want.

It’s hard because we judge ourselves and lack awareness of where our judgements come from.

Praciticing non-judgmental observation is what helps you change.

You don’t wake up one day and stop judging yourself.

You first commit to observing your thoughts, habits and behaviors while becoming aware of how you judge them.

Then you begin to let go of the judgements and replace them with acceptance of your current state of being.

We can’t change ourselves without first accepting where we currently are.

When you are non-judgmental and able to accept your current state you can question yourself without any negativity.

The answers will help you discover what is behind your thoughts, habits and behaviors.

Getting what you want requires you to change.

Observing yourself without judgement is step one.

Questioning what you observe to find the root causes of your thoughts, habits and behaviors shows you what to change and why.

Only then can you begin to reach for what you want.

Until earlier this year, I didn’t realize how much I would have to change in order to discover what I want and put my energy towards it.

I had thoughts, habits and behaviors that I didn’t realize were holding me back.

In my mind, I was blaming others as if they were in my way.

Blaming others for your own reality comes in many different forms.

I didn’t explicitly blame anyone for my circumstances instead I would say and do things that implied that they had to change for me to change.

I was sabotaging myself by giving other people power over my life.

“Change is constant”

A statement that we have to fully accept and embrace if we are to grow.

At work, I thrive during uncertainty, changes and the challenge of figuring it out.

When change in my personal life is inevitable I would resist and fight it like there is no tomorrow.

After realizing that change can make me uncomfortable, I added two things to my daily ritual:

1. Accepting whatever happened in the last 24 hours.

2. Being thankful and having gratitude for the experiences each day brings.

The outcome:
My relationships with others are better.