The most frustrating aspect of marriage as an institution is how it, for all practical purposes, worships the son-in-law but expects the daughter-in-law to be an obedient silent slave
The son-in-law is always a "guest" at his wife's house. Well, the daughter-in-law is in a limbo - she would be forced to call her husband's house as her home, but it is never actually her home.
Husbands are not expected to stay with his wife who just delivered their baby. Two days max, and he can see them when they get back home after 3 months - which is a good & bad system
Good - Because finally no one will ask annoying questions about why she is staying at her OWN home
Bad - Here's the beginning of how husbands get reduced to a secondary playmate position in parenting, because he thinks he is needed only to play with the baby.
Bad - Here's the beginning of how husbands get reduced to a secondary playmate position in parenting, because he thinks he is needed only to play with the baby.
When you are staying away, holidays are to be spent mostly with your husband's family. Remaining 1-2 days for namesake visits to your own family.
At Kollam at least, I have heard married women spent only avittom with her family members, thiruvonam is for her husband's family🙄
While fathers, sons, and sons-in-laws can watch tv or talk rubbish in living room and do nothing that make them sweat, moms, daughters, and DILs sweat their asses off to make the onasadya
And all this is given. Expected of your gender. No questions asked.
When you ask questions, there are no answers because it's fucking conditioning.
When you ask questions, there are no answers because it's fucking conditioning.
Even the daughter's family feels calm when things go by this order. She comes to her own home alone and the questions begin - "is everything alright?"
