You can optimise your friendships and relationships for happiness. Everyone God brings into your life has a role to play, but you must manage your expectations.
The challenge is you keep choosing people who don't share the same values and ideologies. They don't have the same vision of friendship and relationships as you do. That's why they never prioritize you.
They are not bad. They just don't "get it". They are honestly ignorant. Accept whatever they bring to the table and stop prioritizing them. It will end in tears.
You know about "Love Languages"? The concept is so true and is probably responsible for half of all misunderstandings in friendships and relationships.
