I was a very intense emotional masochist in my kink a decade ago. I asked my dominant at the time to SHRED me in our scenes.
I've repressed a lot from those years so I don't remember anything about my physicality being involved.
I was very deeply in it. I was very much those things in my own mind. It wasn't reclamation, it was masochism.
Chronic pain and a low pain tolerance make me a mediocre physical masochist, but I'm a hell of an emotional masochist.
I craved a sharp stab to the nonspecific core of me (my worth, not traits).
And now that I'm out of abuse and have started processing it, I know it will trigger me if I try it now.
Because the way you feel sounds like a healthier way for me, if it's ever feasible. And I have a much heftier sense of self worth now.
This is probably why ddlg is my biggest kink.
In some ways, getting off to that humiliation might have been reclamation of it for me.
Engaging in something I endured nonconsensually regularly in a context that involved pleasure let me at least take something for myself from it.
...maybe I should ask my former dominant...