but I hope we'll have become more aware of the importance of this cycle by then
if she adds "but technically I'm bi", that changes things... FOR HER SPECIFICALLY. this does not invalidate the boundaries of all lesbians, which are so important
which is exactly what I thought as well! but brains are good at surprising us, it turns out
and sure, that kinda fit. because I was attracted to... the idealized concept of masculinity
so I MUST like men, right???
never mind that I found spaces for gay men, with all their performative (if queer) masculinity, entirely off-putting
I still tried to make it work, somehow
the last thing I wanted was to be a straight man trying to appropriate queerness, but... I knew that was exactly what I looked like
and if THAT doesn't sound like compulsory heterosexuality, I don't know what does
hashtag #MeToo
gimme a minute
realtalk: I like being penetrated. there's a particularly shitty radfem idea that dildos and strap-ons are unfeminine and that by using them we're reinforcing patriarchy. I hope most of us have left that nonsense FAR behind us in 2018