Thread by @PaulMDomenick

10 lessons I’ve learned from the book “How to Win friends and influence people” (by Dale Carnegie) that will change your Social life today

A simple guide on how to make people like you

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1-Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

No one responds well to criticism, in fact, people react defensively

It’s better to try and be patient with others by seeking to understand them, not criticize them

So stop complaining & condemning people

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2-Praise others & show appreciation

What sounds better to you?

A) Someone telling you that you’ve done a good job
Or
B) someone saying you could’ve done a better job

Of course (B), because Humans love to feel approved of and feel appreciated

Show some love today

3-Don’t forget the name

What’s the most important word someone can hear?

Their name

You saying their name is the most beautiful sound to them, so never forget it, plus it shows you’re paying attention

Here’s a thread I wrote on Remembering names

https://twitter.com/paulmdomenick/status/1049396491327016965?s=21

4-Be interesting by being interested in others

Encourage others to talk more about themselves and their passions

Find out more about them and ask deeper questions

By being interested in others, you become interesting

For this, they’ll like you

Listen more; Speak less

5-Charisma

Being charismatic is more important than what you know

Why?

Because you can have all the knowledge in the world, but if they don’t like you, they won’t want to work with you

You need to become the person people enjoy talking to, not the brains with no charm

6-Avoid arguments

The Best way to win an argument is to avoid it

Even if you win with facts, you most likely won’t win the person to your side

They’ll be bitter at the loss and will fight on

“A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
-Dale Carnegie

7-Smile

“A man without a smiling face must not be an open shop.”
-Chinese Proverb

Smiles are infectious

Because Humans simulate others expressions by mimicking what they see

If you make them smile, they’ll feel happy, which they’ll associate you with that positive feeling

8-Admit when you’re wrong

Simple: be humble in victory or defeat

Admitting you’re wrong will always be a strength

Besides, this is a quick way to end an argument

Don’t die on the hill, just admit if you’re wrong, they’ll have more respect for you after

9-Arouse a want in others

You need to talk in terms of what the other person wants, not what you want

Because people don’t care about what you want, they’re focused on what they want

So, put yourself in their shoes and angle your point from their eyes

What do they want?

10- Praise them

This comes down to giving value to others in your life

“Be hearty in your Approbation and lavish in your praise”

Don’t hold back from telling people they’re doing a good job, or how nice they look, or how thankful you are for them

Freely praise others

Bonus: 11-let others save face

We get it, you won the argument and you’re about to roast that coworker or your cousin...

Don’t do it

Don’t look to embarrass them or force them to acknowledge they’re wrong

You know why? Because they know they’re wrong, that’s what matters

Hope you guys enjoyed this thread

Absolutely life changing book and I recommend it to all of you

Enjoy your weekend guys, you’re all doing great, love you all

Talk soon,
Paul

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**edit: the answer for the tweet above is (A) haha**