Thread by @yemi_uc

For my new year resolution, I tried a different approach from what I have seen people say - setting goals, building micro-habits, learning something new.

This is my formula. It is a variation of @JeffBezos Regret Mnimization formula. I suggest you try it too. [THREAD]

Imagine you are 5 - 10 years older than you are today. But you are stuck in the same situation (in disagreement with your parents, at the job you hate/like, in the bus on your way home, eating unhealthy, not having savings, postponing your projects, et al)

Would you be happy?

If no, try and imagine the way you want to feel 5 - 10 years from now - celebrated, happy, rich, influential, loved, successful, kinder, et al.

Do not imagine the kind of car you will drive or the apartment you will live in, or the vacations you want. Those things are fleeting

Now come back to your unhappy self and regret all the things you did not do 5 - 10 years ago that made you remain in the situation you are right now.

Write those things down.

Make yourself feel the regret of not doing those things that made you remain in the same situation.

Your regret list would be filled with things like - not taking that job opportunity, going for masters, not starting that blog you said you will do, being a hater, et al.

Now that you have the regret list, come back to your current age and quit the regrets.

Past-regrets are not useful for anything. Never-ever regret your past decisions. You should only work on improving your decision-making ability.

You now have a list of regrets. That list of regret are things you wish to work on, they are your goals.

They are the things that if you fixed, they will make you the best version of yourself 5 - 10 years from now.

Break down the goals into habits.
Goal: Study abroad
- Spend 1 hr everyday reading for Gmat.
- Spend 1 hr every weekend discovering scholarship opportunities
- Save N2000 every week for school applications
- Be helpful to family members because l need their support abroad

@ncasenmare has a pretty good post on how to form habits that I will be adopting too

https://twitter.com/ncasenmare/status/1078689255042494465

If you follow this framework, you might realize that your present resolutions - wake up earlier, quit watching porn, leave Twitter, et al, do not contribute to a better version of yourself 5 years from now.