The fallacy of this statement is so antithetical to our faith that the fact some misguided young men & women quote it shows how distant they are from our tradition & Prophetic guidance that they even justify wrong to satisfy their egos.
"O Muadh! Rectify your manners with people!"
آخر ما أوصاني به رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم حين وضعت رجلي في الغرز أن قال: أحسن خلقك للناس يا معاذ
"The most beloved to me & closest on sitting to me on the day of judgement are those with the best of character."
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Who out there can claim adab & character isnt important after knowing *how important* it is?
O Abu Dhar!
Should I not guide you to two characteristics that are light but heavy on the scales
I said: Yes O Messenger of Allah!
He said:
Cling on to perfecting character & prolonged silence.
I swear by the One who holds the soul of Muhammad in His hand, no one from creation can do better deeds than these.
Amr b. Abasah asked the Prophet ﷺ:
What is the best thing in faith?
He said:
Lofty character.
A person with lofty character, reaches the status of the one who constantly prays in the night & fasts during the day.
"وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا"
Speak to people kindly
Speak good words to all people
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Some person will actually come and say "but look at the reaction of so & so!"
I tell you Allah & His Messenger said, & youre telling me so & so said!
This is a command from God!
AlZuhri said
No one benefits anything from a person with horrible manners.