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I am mad. I am mad at the so called “professionals” who are promoting ABA and continuing to use ABA as a means to keep the autistic person oppressed. #askingautistics #AllAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #NeuroLurker
It is YOUR FAULT so called “professionals” that the autism community and the autistic community are at odds. I am so mad and disgusted with you so called “professionals” and I am here to give you a piece of my mind.
You so called “professionals” are proliferating Conversion Therapy for Autistics. Convert the autistic person to so called “standards”, “normalcy”, “typical” is the main underlying theory of any form of ABA. Period. No arguments needed. That is fact.
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#AskingAutistics desperately seeking your advice. An autistic student draws the whole day at school and if redirected to engage in academics, gets violent and aggressive. Has difficulties with speech. Tried draw and wrote sort of exercises, he only draws. Hates interuption.
I feel like he's like water. Will flow out if we try to contain him. But by channeling his talents, can be great. Ecellent at visual perception. Builds complicated structures with any block like items. Draws superbly. Fine tunes his art on a daily basis. Is just 7.
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Pro-tip: A note on self-harm and self-help: self-harm happens in multiple diagnoses. It can be acute (cutting, head-banging, biting, etc.) or chronic (skin-picking, eating disorders, teeth grinding, etc.) Both types are neurologically driven and provide a way to meet a need.
Chronic self-harm is a way of attending to generalized discomfort of unknown origin. This is common with sensory processing disorder and alexithymia. It is a quite-literal manifestation of being uncomfortable in one’s own skin.
Stopping chronic forms of self-harm often lead to different forms of self-harm because the underlying needs driving compulsive behaviors are not met. You might be hungry or dehydrated, constipated, overly-full, stressed, bored, over or under-stimulated.
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Thread about living with alexithymia #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodiversity #autism

I experience alexithymia. It's one of those anecdotal conditions that autists know we experience, but it's not formally dxed or researched.

It's like colour blindness for feelings. /1
I can tell light from dark, or in this case, positive from negative. I know I'm feeling good or bad feelings.

But it's hard to give them a name. I feel good, but do I feel happy? Proud? Serene? I feel bad, but am I feeling shame? stress? sadness? /2
My psychologist asked me how it made me feel to reflect on the experiences I'd had as an undxed girl.

I was stumped. I tried, but couldn't pinpoint a feeling. I said, "I wish I hadn't spent so much time being so hard on myself." The feeling I couldn't name then was REGRET. /3
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Here’s my latest update to the list of Twitter #Disability & #ChronicIllness Hashtags.

- previous update 02.24.19 -

Please share it! Thank you. :-)

@ImageAltText Graffiti background. Foreground in white letters on a  red background to the left reads “Twitter Disability and Chronic Illness Hashtags”
There will be a PDF version up for download on my Ko-fi, likely tomorrow morning. The link is at the end.
Hashtags For Personal Narratives.

These hashtags are for sharing your stories & experiences. Also good for crowdsourcing solutions.

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How to ruin people's faith in themselves and in you as an advocate:

1. Don't forgive missteps
2. Put mistakes on display for others to ridicule
3. Be the harshest comment
4. Be passive aggressive
5. Don't show good faith
6. Don't consider what brought a person to their beliefs
7. Make their needs about your feelings
8. Don't care about their struggles if they're not related to yours
9. Dismiss their struggles as not real or valid if they're different from yours
10. Leave no room for new ideas
11. Punish differences of opinion
12. Establish yourself as the authority so that no other voices or ideas can be expressed or heard
13. Show blind loyalty to/take sides with people who are demonstrating toxic or abusive behaviors
14. Isolate, bully, or criticize people as being "all bad" who disagree in one area
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1/ #AskingAutistics Hi. Am new to this community. No idea if anyone will see this but would be so grateful for any responses. I have a few specific questions #naturally. Does anyone who is #ActuallyAutistic consider themselves to have a 'super' ability to read non verbal cues?
2/ Facial expressions? Body language? Tone? Like, going into a meeting with 8 people in and taking in an enormous amount of information about how they were each presenting, what they said, the impact it appeared to have on others. #AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic
3/ #AskingAutistics Would that be an example of masking? Learnt behaviour? Because I find it enormously draining but also it doesn't feel like a conscious effort.I just...take it in. And remember it. And people often comment on my memory, and perception,or that #actuallyautistic
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Meltdown thread?

Meltdown thread. Let's go. /1
#autistic #autism #AskingAutistics #AutismAwareness
Tonight's stroll through the parks and glades of #autistic life will descend into one of the darker, more chaotic valleys of autism - the concept of the 'meltdown'. This will be emotive for all autistic readers and I'm sorry if I don't manage to communicate this well. /2
The term 'meltdown' has connotations of disaster. We all know that a nuclear meltdown, for example, is a less-than-ideal situation that may be worth avoiding at all costs. This is why there's some sensitivity around the use of the term for #Autism. Is it too negative? /3
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#AskingAutistics Post a pic of something you have recently aligned, lined up or stacked.

Tag it your tweet with #LetsLineThingsUp.

Retweet this tweet so that others can join the celebration.
PS: If you're NOT autistic and you like lining things up, feel free to post your pics too, and tag them with #LetsLineThingsUp.
Some of you may remember @thingsorganized from a few years ago. So much aaaaah. 😊
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Childhood isn't only about preparing for adulthood, you officious ableist fools. And if the child is disabled, even preparing for adulthood should mean preparing to live effectively as a disabled adult, not learning to fake being non-disabled.
If you feel inspired to make a career in the autism industry, why aren't you #AskingAutistics about the many unmet needs? Why enter the fray of abusive therapists all vying to fan and cash in on parents' ableist fears?
Imagine you ran a therapy centre for women, and all your glowing testimonials and endorsements were from husbands, brothers, fathers and sons.

No actual women.

But your therapy is advertised as being 'evidence-based'.

What's wrong with this picture?
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Autistic people "go hard" when they do something. Finding the autistic community and making the cognitive and emotional paradigm shift from "I am always wrong and need to show deference" (how we grow up) to "I am valuable and have been abused by systems and industries" (cont)
is a brutal rearranging of our whole psyche and sense of self. We make the decisive covenant with ourselves that we aren't going to be abused anymore and we will do anything possible to keep others from having the same experiences. It is a radical shift and a brave one (cont)
Sometimes, we over-correct. The lines are so obscure and hard to read between what is toxic abuse and what is ableism. We oscillate between realities: the reality that our voices are needed to help future autistic generations not suffer the way we did, but also (cont)
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I don’t have many friends. The few I do have are long distance friendships or I see them only once or twice a year. I struggle to maintain friendships because others often expect more out of me than I have to give. But I’m happy. Anyone relate?#ActuallyAutistic #AskingAutistics
Growing up I would have “one friend at a time” because I could keep track of one friend (often fawning over them inappropriately). It was never good to “put all my eggs in one basket” because if my friend moved I would suddenly find myself alone & in need of a new friend.
Making new friends is always difficult, because I struggle to read new people. I can “memorize” the mannerisms and preferences of a person to learn to work around them but a new person is an unpleasantly fresh slate. #ActuallyAutistic
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A few gentle reminders (thread):

1. Neurodiversity is not ‘extremist’, it simply means humans have a variety of brains

2. Autistic people who celebrate autism and don’t want to be cured can (and do) consider autism a disability. They are not mutually exclusive views.
3. The #ActuallyAutistic hashtag means the person tweeting is autistic. That is all. This is also not ‘extremist’. (NTs please don’t misuse it - if you want our attention use #AskingAutistics 🙂)
4. If an individual, or even a few individuals, tweet abuse and they are part of the neurodiversity/ actually autistic community... they are just individuals tweeting abuse. They do not represent me or the group at large. You cannot extrapolate and conclude we are all abusive.
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Hey, how's this for autism 'awareness' month: some percentage of you who are reading this tweet are #actuallyAutistic and aren't aware of it.

I'm going to post a bunch of questions I wish I had been asked in this context, years ago. This is not diagnosis! But it's instructive.
Do you need a lot of time alone? Even in a relationship or family, even when you really love the other people in your life, even (especially?) when there isn't anything particularly pressing for you to do?
Do loud noises cause you distress? Or background sounds that won't quiet stop? Do you prefer to keep the lights off? Are there foods you can't eat or fabrics you can't wear because the textures just "feel bad" in a way you can't explain?
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Real question. We know what we DON'T want to see from #autistic characters in film & tv (hold the puppet jokes pls), but what DO we want to see? Who do you want to watch and what's happening to them?
Eagerly waiting for aaalllll the comments. This is it. This is the time and place to speak your mind and be heard by people who can actually make a difference. Come thru #ActuallyAutistic #AskingAutistics #DisabledTwitter #DisabilityPride #Neurodiversity
Thanks everyone! You really came thru on this. I have LOTS of great input to share and responses to give to those inevitable questions. You've got my back and I've got yours! Here's to more of us, better represented, on screens in the near future. 🤞🏽✊🏽🎬
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Here's my latest update to my collection of active Twitter #Disability & #ChronicIllness Hashtags - previous update 12.13.18.

Please share it. Thank you! :-) Light blue sand background has the # drawn in the sand to the right. The left side is blank. <br />
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At the bottom of the picture, text reads
Portable PDF version will appear on my Kofi in the next day or so.


These hashtags are for sharing your stories & experiences. Also helpful for crowdsourcing solutions.

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Dear world. It’s time to correct some assumptions about #autism. I am #actuallyautistic and fortunate enough to be professionally diagnosed. I would appreciate your taking the time to read this thread so you can learn about autism from a person with autism.
One of the biggest assumptions people make is that autism involves intellectual disability. This is incorrect. Autism often shows up in combination with a variety of other disorders and ID is one of them but the vast majority of people with autism do not have ID.
The official statistic most often quoted is between 31% (according to Autism Speaks) and 38% (according to the CDC) of autistic children have a diagnosis of intellectual disability. Note that this is a SEPARATE diagnosis. It is not inherent to autism.
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TW: R slur, old-fashioned and ableist beliefs, brief transphobia, using “autistic” to mean “stupid”, ABA

Just had a horrible fight with my mother. She still thinks I’m a “modern hipster just looking for attention”, as she puts it, for wanting to get a diagnosis.
I told her about my evaluation last week and she said, “I knew you were r*tarded when you were fixated on ‘accepting’ Legacy’s autism. And ‘supporting’ your confused SON, who is definitely not this modernista ‘non binary’ bullshit. Yeah, those were some real autistic beliefs.”
And then my autism-related characteristic sense of social justice got in the way, and I yelled at her for using the r-word and the word autistic as an insult, and that accepting my childrens’ differences was the best decision I made as a parent, not the worst. She took enormous
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It really astounds me how many people think, "it couldn't possibly be ADHD, I can focus when I'm interested"

like hi you are literally describing hyperfocus which is common in both ADHD and Autism.

I just wish we had less stigma, more sharing important information.
Seriously one of the ways I bond with other neurodivergent people (especially Autistic and ADHD people) is to make jokes about how weird and sometimes wonderful hyperfocus is

it's a mental minefield of "I did all the things! But nothing on my to do list. Again. Whoops"
Knowing about hyperfocus in our ableist society is also really important

Because I think we all internalize that maybe we're just "making up our disabilities" or "it's not THAT hard to focus"

But then we end up beating ourselves up for variable attention and disability
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