Busy working day, school run done.
I can settle down & try to process my life in Tweets!
(or you could watch the in-flight movie 'Airplane' if you prefer....?!)
1/
Mostly ok, but showing no sign of crawling, toddling etc....
GP said "lazy"
Health Visitor said "lazy"
Parents unconvinced...
Same aged 18months...
& aged 2yrs...
2/
Drs: "Cerebral Palsy! Now take her home & love her....."
Parents: "um.......?"
Drs: ".....? Oh, sorry, yes - she'll never go to school / ride a bike / learn to swim / be normal.... So.... Good luck"
3/
They taught me to crawl aged 3
Toddle aged 4
Walk (ish!) aged 5
(looking like a drunk, but mostly without falling over too often...)
Normal primary school 1978 - 1984 (Newtown, Wales - differences were encompassed & embraced)
4/
I swam
I read every book in the house!
(Lord of the Rings aged 10)
I sang in choirs
I played recorders & clarinet
I spoke Welsh (badly) & English
I rode a bike without stabilisers aged 10
I fell over - lots
I had physio - lots
I saw Drs - lots
5/
Push back against being written off by the message of "she'll never" to find out what "she can" looked like
&
An inherent pressure to become 'normal' (able bodied) & therefore tick the box of success (child & parents)
6/
not just to be as fit as I could be in my own body,
but to strive for the unspoken goal of walking properly...
Belligerent
Determined
Tough
Stubborn
Knackered....
7/
I'd not be in a position to 'fit into'
able bodied society
able bodied Church
able bodied systems
But.... It left me with a legacy.
An able bodied mind set.
My body had CP, but really I was able bodied & trapped. I needed to not have CP...
8/
to move normally,
avoid the word 'disabled',
to talk about CP as though it was some kind of affliction which needed to be beaten
to pray 'properly' so that God would remove my CP & I'd be a proper Christian....
9/
Not to be the best version of me I could be...
but to be the right version of the human being I had failed to be by having CP...
Then I'd be a proper human
Then I'd be a proper Christian
10/ .....
Tea break ....
Needed to pause as re-living my story can sometimes catch me out...
Ready for more?
11/
Advertising was based on the pity/charitable model. "These poor, tragic children can only have hope if you give money..."
& fear. "Imagine if this was your child..."
12/
Those kids wore bright red, leather boots (strong, sturdy, feet clamping, heavy....)
I wore the same boots....
No wonder people on the streets stared & whispered - pity, tragedy, fear...
I was only 7 yrs old & I was angry
13/
(DIY SOS ....? )
13b /
& added to that a teen who tried to disguise physical giveaways & find the 'fix' (physio, medication, surgery, prayer...)
& to complicate things:
a clear call to Ordination!
From the age of 7!
A disabled female child!
God, really?
14/
My Rev when I was 7 took my anger, frustration & confusion seriously.
"Does this 'loving God' expect me to be a faithful disciple with CP?"
"When's God going to fix me?"
"Does God fear me, like people in the street?"
Whatever Rev said, I was more content!
15/
I was still trying to mask my dodgy walking & stamina. I was trying to avoid my ordination call. I was beginning to question 'The Fix'. I was intrigued by 'healing' ....
16/
Home life was a mess - maybe I'd have prayer for that...?
A tap on my shoulder...
17/
"you been to 3 of these now. You're not a good advert for a healing service if you're still disabled, are you. Why do you come?"
I didn't go back.
God wasn't going to fix me.
So I'd just have to be as able bodied as possible, adapt myself
18/
GCSEs passed
A levels scraped through
Parent's divorced
Boyfriends disappointing
Driving test passed
Year out begun
Uni place secured
'Normal' life (with a limp) achieved...
Major surgery changes everything
De-rotational osteotomy
(Google it!)
19/
Me: no arguing God. I'm not getting ordained, I'm going to have my leg straightened then go & be an actor. Besides, women can't be priests so there's no point in my being ordained
God: hold my beer...
The CofE allowed women priests.
Surgeons straightened my leg
20/
Uni
Boyfriend - fiance
Degree (how?!)
More surgery... To correct the '92 op
Permanently on crutches since '92 with no sign of coming off them.
No masking this anymore.
Crutches make you stand out
(like a child's red leather boots)
Marriage! Work, house, bills
21/
Always. Sometimes on mute.
Vividly present when 'recovering' from surgery no.3...
A part of New Wine - though cautious around prayer ministry which easily focused on my crutches...
"can I pray for yr CP?"
"if you think that's what God wants...sure"
Disappointment...
22/
Failure
Whose failure?
Mine, obviously. Not enough Faith.
Incomplete disciple, obviously.
& yet, a call to ordination - with CP?
Needed to think...
23/
Ordained in 2003!!!!
And still adapting herself to 'the normal rules' of how the system works...
24/
"But how will you preach & not get tired?"
"Can you get into a pulpit?"
"How could you handle the bread/wine at Communion, on crutches?"
"Will you manage? Are you resilient enough?"
25/
A new dilemma....
What did I want him & his friends to make of disabled people?
What did I make of disabled people?
What did I make of... me?
Oh bugger! I had to think. Fast.
26/
A new revelation.
I'd been living a Medical Model existence until now.
This says,
do all you can to get better.
"the only disability is a bad attitude..."
Try harder.
= failure...
27/
Yr medical condition isn't stopping you. We are. We're getting in the way, preventing you. We'll change that. You have value. We'll affirm that. Justice is key to this.
& Psalm 139 "I'm fearfully & wonderfully made"
28/
Was I a damaged able bodied person who just needed to try harder in order to have value?
Or was I disabled?
Would I keep adapting & pretending?
Or 'come out' & implement the adjustments I needed?
When wee Tup was born I 'came out' as disabled.
29/
I read Nancy Eiesland, Frances Young, @TommyShakes +++
I found my disabled voice!
Now what? 😏
31/
To do the things I was squeezing into my 'spare' time (around being a full time Vicar of 2 churches) & more, and get paid 😃😃😃
I applied.
Was interviewed.
Was appointed 💜
Here I am!
32/
So is my sarcasm & belligerence
My CP makes life tiring
So do people parking in Blue Badge spaces with no Blue Badge
My CP brings anxiety
So do deceitful politicians
My CP opens doors
When able bodied people don't
33/
I'm a work in progress
I'm made in God's image
I'm not failed or flawed creation
(not because of my CP anyway!)
You can read more in @DisabilityJ book 'Pilgrims in the dark' [ image ]
Thank you for listening...
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