We have neither the honesty nor integrity to say this explicitly and so we will
This is what society has been doing to female victims of male violence since forever but the significance of this is completely lost on our misogynistic, authoritarian, ahistorical selves.
Same old, same old, same old.
I used to work for Women's Aid. I worked in refuge and in floating support, and I worked with other women who ran perpetrator programmes. The justification for the violence
"She made me do it."
"I don't believe in violence - I actually *hate* violence - but you don't know what she's like."
"She's barely a mark on her. She's making a fuss over nothing."
I will never stop speaking up for women's rights. Not ever. Violence and intimidation make me LOUDER.