Thread by @iamjamesiroro

When people break your heart and leave, just let them go. There's no point labeling them bad people. It only means their part in your story has ended. #irorospeaks

There's no greater agony than losing someone you loved deeply. It hurts and one might lose self confidence. So labeling them "bad" in some way makes one feel "good" about the situation. But that shouldn't be your plan. #irorospeaks

Your goal should be on reflecting on what has just happened. This was someone who had showered you with love and affection at one time; what caused the sudden change, should be what you ask. #irorospeaks

Regardless of what caused it, accept that they are gone. Accept that sooner or later it might have ended anyway. Accept that certain things were not addressed before you started in the first place. #irorospeaks

Dealing with heartbreak is never a walk in the park. Don't let anyone fool you with rebound relationships. If you truly loved someone and they left, you will need time to heal. Getting involved again instantly, chances are high that this new one won't last. #irorospeaks

Make peace with yourself and with the person who left. You might need to block them out of your life for awhile to avoid getting upset with their new life. #irorospeaks

Avoid things that act as reminder for what you just lost and embark on creating new memories. Most times, it's not the people we miss but the memories we have built with them. So creating new memories enable you move on faster. #irorospeaks

This in no way means getting on the next date and starting a new relationship but rather doing for yourself things you wanted the other person to do for/with you. #irorospeaks

For example, after my relationship ended, I have gone on more alone dates than I ever did while in a relationship. Because I don't need to schedule with anyone to take myself out. So the chances of been declined didn't exist. #irorospeaks

What that does for you is, it creates new memories that your mind peruse on whenever you feel lonely. People mostly get sad when there's a vacuum in their emotional bank. Fill that void and the sadness will disappear. #irorospeaks

Next, start with a clean slate. Holding on to the past only ruins the present and rob you of the future. Don't judge the next person by what the last person did. Sometimes we go through pain in order to appreciate joy. #irorospeaks

There has been someone hanging around all this time wishing they could start something with you but you haven't given them a thought because you were in one. So don't let someone leaving you make you lose confidence. You're someone's heart desire. #irorospeaks

Value yourself enough and give love yet another chance. The disappointment doesn't render love invalid. It simply means you gave love to the wrong person. True love still exist; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. #irorospeaks

Give yourself time to heal. Seek help if needed. Give love another chance. Make peace with your past. If they realize their mistake and apologize, forgive and move on. You never know whose help would be needed in the future. #irorospeaks

Yes, your ex hurt you but they're still humans. Forgive and move on at your own pace. Stop the name calling or hatred for them. You don't need that negative energy, just let it go.

May we all find and cherish true love.

Cheers
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